Holding the Dream, Interpreting the vision and manifesting the Goal - A Ritual to bring you home to your Inner Child and Authentic Self

When it comes to your life, it probably isn’t what your five year old self envisioned for you. You may have wanted to be a princess, actress, astronaut, superhero, firefighter, or fashion designer. Somewhere along the way, life reshaped your vision of who you are and based on societies rules you became what others desired you to be. You put yourself into a box, were forced into a box or fell into a box that suited what “should” happen in your life. Life itself within the rules of civilization limited your limitless soul. Whatever steered you away from your desired reality, it isn’t what you dreamed your future self would be doing. When you were a child there was magic in everything. Your imagination allowed you to create the most extravagant worlds and you lived in a fantasy land. What if you could get back your imagination to be able to hold the dream and allow your inner child free reign to visualize the life you should have and use that to manifest the life you deserve? Would you take that opportunity? It is honestly quite simple but takes some practice. Your inner child is the core of who you’ve become today. The more you connect to that version of you, the closer you become to the best version of your soul. Children are pure. They have no filter and live with no abandon. They do what feels, good, what feels right and what resonates within their soul. As you grow, you become conditioned to the version of you that society deems appropriate. You are told you’re too much of this or not enough of that. You change, are controlled, and groomed the way you would train a dog. A little bit of your sparkle and authenticity diminishes every time you’re told to be something other than you are. This ritual gets you back in tune with the unbridled version of yourself to find your true essence and bring you home to your soul.

To start the ritual, lay down, get comfortable and relax. If you want to put on soothing music, light candles, smudge, add crystals, incense, or turn the lights off, just do what feels right for your soul. This ritual is all about connecting to YOU. Don’t worry if you’re doing it right, just go with the flow and surrender to the moment. Allow your soul to feel protected, honored, and secure in the rhythm of time. Once you’re in your energetic and physical safe space, Take three grounding breaths and fully connect to your body, mind, and soul. Get centered in your breath. Release the tension in your body and take three more breaths to deepen your connection. Inhale your life force, protection and unconditional love and exhale the stress, doubt, and insecurity. Visualize growing a grounding cord from the bottom of your feet deep into the center of the Earth. Let it connect to Gaia like the anchor of a ship. Feel a bright, white, light connect from Spirit, The Universe, God (whoever you pray to or connect with) to your crown chakra. Allow that white light to fully encase you and protect you. Breathe in the protection of the white light and the stability of the grounding cord. Feel the energy from Gaia, move up the grounding cord and connect with the energy from Spirit and feel the white light travel through you into your grounding cord. Feel the dance of the masculine and feminine energy move through your body balancing you and freeing you from the tension of your existence.

Once you feel centered, connected, and ready, scan your body looking for your inner child. Where do they reside within your body? Allow yourself to observe them. How old are they? What are they wearing? Do they look happy to see you or are they timid in your presence? Anything that flows into your mind about your inner child in this moment is right. Do not try to change anything about them, not their age, dress, or demeanor, just watch them and see what they are like. They are you and you are witnessing firsthand what your inner child is truly like and how comfortable they feel with you. Try to get close to them and encase them in a loving embrace. Tell them it is not their fault, that their voice matters. Tell them that their feelings, wants, needs, desires and soul matters. Tell them that they are perfect just the way they are. Tell your little self that you love them, and you will protect them. Then I want you to listen to them. What do they say to you? Let them speak uninterrupted and allow them to have a voice. Be there for them. When you were a child you wished for someone to treat you the way you needed to be treated, to rescue them and to honor them. You just didn’t realize it would be you as an adult coming in to be that for yourself. Be the superhero you always needed.

Be there for your inner child in every way that you can be. Whatever they need, you have the capacity to give it to them. Be the support that little you has always dreamed of. Once you feel fully connected to your inner child and they feel comforted and have said their piece to you, ask them what they want for you to do with your life. Listen to them and don’t judge or make excused. This inner child of yours is the purest version of you. They are the one who is truly connected to your higher self. They haven’t been jaded by society. Let them communicate to you what to do with your life. Let them tell you what they want you to do more of creatively and let them inform you of their hopes for you. Ask them what their dreams are, what their goals are and how to achieve those goals for the both of you. Ask them to get really clear on what they want and need you to know so that you may interpret their ideas to realize them. Let them lead you in this moment. Surrender to them and allow them to show you the magic that exists within your heart. There is purity inside you, you just have to be open to you. Let them show you what sets your soul on fire and makes them want to get up in the morning. Let your full attention be on your inner child and allow them to shine. Once they feel ready walk them to your heart chakra and envision a castle made of gold and the trees and grass made of money. Walk into your abundant and loving heart and let them relax in the castle while you come back to the present moment to realize their dreams into your reality. When you open your eyes and come back to the present moment, write down everything you can. Make a list of everything you want to achieve and visualize that life daily. The universe will grant you what the focus of your energy is. If you can learn to interpret your inner child’s visions for you, to hold their dreams and manifest them into reality; the goal of your soul becomes an actuality rather than a fantasy.

Instead of spending this new year creating goals from your wounded side, let your inner child curate the life you deserve from the magic in your heart.

Blessings and Namaste

-Lady Phoenix

Limitations and the Egoic Mind

Let’s talk limitations and the egoic mind. You cannot fight against the ego and win. You have to ask it to step aside and remove itself from the situation. Spirit can help you to release your ego for the highest good in moments, but the ego comes with your body, this 3D version of your soul. So, you can never FULLY be rid of it. You can, however, release its hold ever now and then until your ego becomes the passenger and occasional driver. When the ego is the full driver of your life. It is the one who attaches to things. It attaches to thoughts. The thought that someone or something is yours or meant to be in your life. Your ego desires full connectivity in a tangible way and your higher self understands that you are connected to so much more in an exorbitantly larger capacity/ Your ego places you in the concept of ownership rather than in flow and connectivity. This is your mind identifying things, placing limits and labels on them, and creating a block or a hold on them in ways that you now feel stuck.

When you can recognize the negative, obsessive thoughts that replay over and over you begin to awaken to the hold your ego has on you. Your awareness of the thought without being a part of the thought brings you into a higher state of being. You are no longer fully controlled by those thoughts. You will awaken more and more throughout your life until the day you die, but the egoic mind will not rule you. The more people who awaken to the collective consciousness the more the egoic mind will dissipate and the more the collective will come together to unite in a way that has never been seen before. There are so many light and shadow workers here now that there will be quantum shifts and healing throughout the world.

The limitations that you place on yourself all stem from the egoic mind. You are more than a man or woman, son, daughter, child, adult, whatever your career is, whatever trauma you have been through. You are more than your gifts or experiences. You are infinite. Stop labeling yourself. Part of this is the egoic mind needing to wrap its brain around something. Humans work through issues by placing labels on them. If you can take the labels off an understand then it is all happening for you. Sometimes you really don’t need to understand to be able to flow through life. The more you flow the faster it goes. Meaning the more you surrender to the divine, to spirit, the faster you move into your elevated space of awakening. You are doing the work and therefore you achieve your goal sooner. Why do you feel as though you need to understand everything? It is preprogrammed in you from a young age to make sense of things, to make sense of everything. Your parents, teachers and society are very limiting. I don’t mean this in a bad way or to negate what you have learned from those you love and adore. I simply mean to say that society has kept us boxed in and kept us from being individuals.

Think of this like the Divergent series. A divergent could be all things, they could be Dauntless, the brave ones who protected others and were essentially security. They could be Amity, the kind ones connected to the land. They had the ability to tap into their intelligence like Erudite or be honest like Candor or even selfless like Abnegation. These factions divided the people based on what they could be. They were limited and labeled and separated from their families. Faction before blood. They couldn’t be all things because all things made you different and you couldn’t be controlled. The more you couldn’t be controlled by society the more of a threat you were and the more dangerous you were to society, those in control and damaging the system. This is a fairly accurate representation of our society today. They send out so much propaganda and try to control the people through fear mongering and separating the collective and pinning them against each other. When you can release your beliefs, labels and limitations and realize that you are all things already you become divergent. You become powerful and authentic and allow yourself to pave a new way for others to follow.

Part of the limitations that you are feeling are within the mind and what the brain can see and comprehend. The human mind sees only a fraction of what is actually in front of them. There are so many more colors in the spectrum that we can comprehend. Optical illusions can alter your sense of reality and you need to be able to fully quantify and label something in order to “make sense” of it. You can be in a public place and witness the same event as many others and every single person will have a different account and different perspective of the experience. Eyewitness accounts can be inaccurate because of the judgement in the mind and the perspectives from your past experiences and trauma. How you view the world is generally through your egoic mind. When you begin to take the limitations and labels off you transcend the narrative you have had and level up in so many different ways. It is difficult at first, but it does get easier.

You won’t always be stuck in your over analysis or in the pain from the past. You have to dive deep to uproot everything that is interconnected to be able to clear it all away. Think of your trauma like a necklace that has gotten tangled. You need it to be free of the knots to work properly. Everything inside of you is all interconnected but in order to wear the necklace you have to take the knots out. Sometimes it takes a lot of finesse and finagling to get those tiny knots out of the chain without breaking it. Once the knots are out you can adorn the chain with any charm or gem you want to. But until you get those knots out it won’t function properly. You can still wear the chain that is knotted but it reaches a different level once it is free from the trauma. This basically correlates to your channel with spirit. All of these limitations and distortions keep your channel stuck or unclear almost like a brain fog. Work on clearing the channel and your distortions by doing the work, surrendering, and having faith in the unknown and the more you open up to the possibilities.

You can release your limitations by stillness. Stillness can bring in the thoughts that you need to see to help you progress on your path, in so you deal with your inner space. What is your inner space it is your inner consciousness and all of who you are, your spirit, your lifeblood your soul. It is the freedom from ego and your need to have any attachments to anything at all in life. It is the removal of who you are with all of the labels and your true connection to spirit. It is within you, and you can tap into it at any moment. It gives you space to breathe through the pain and process your thoughts. It negates the labels and connects you to spirit and to your true essence. It takes the significance away from the attachments in your life. Everything within you is connected to everything within the universe and when you tap into that inner space, that universal connectivity to all you let go of suffering, of attachments and you move into that true joy and all-knowing thinking that is guided by spirit. You get to know all things and can move out of negativity and fear. You can tap into this by staying in the present moment and connecting to your breath and all of your senses. Use your breath to connect to every aspect of your body and how it lights up all of the energy within your body. Use that breath to take bring you into connection with every cell of your body. Use that breath and the air on your skin, what you feel around you, what you hear and taste. Allow yourself to be fully present which brings you out of your egoic mind and the obsessive rumination that is happening and allows you to tap into the moment you are aware of your thoughts but not ruled by them which brings you into the inner moment, space, connectivity to your mind and spirit.

This connects you to your I am presence. What is the I am presence? It is I am that I am. It is your God consciousness, your divine self, that holy spirit within you. There is no separation in time and space, but on what is. It is the highest timeline and the highest vibration of you. You are the living God. Every single human on Earth is. Not everyone taps into it and not everyone taps in at the same time. When you remove your limitations, you embody this version of you which puts you in touch with your true, loving, divine purpose. You mind is the one limiting your growth and the more you can step out of this need to box things in, understand, label and limit everything, the more you step into your power and connect to spirit. Allow yourself to take baby steps with this and over time it becomes a full practice and a new way of life. You have so much potential, you just have to believe it and know you are so much more than you currently think you are.

-Lady Phoenix

Reprogramming Your Thoughts and Life Patterns

How do you reprogram what you have experienced over the course of your entire life? By changing up the way you look at things and how to navigate through your current paradigm to shift the narrative to fit the upgraded version of you. With all of the planetary placements and the collective shift that society is moving through, the Divine Feminine is upgrading and the Divine Masculine is in the void. What does this mean? You are experiencing an internal struggle that is the womb and heart against the brain and gut. You are feeling lost, overworked, undervalued, underpaid, and underappreciated, while at the same time feeling full of love, proud of your growth, accomplishments and standing in your personal power. Your brain won’t stop, and your heart feels full and broken at the same time. No matter what you’re going through it seems as though this is a never-ending spree of confusion and lack. You are on your way, there is just some extra grease that needs to be worked through to make sure everything is running smoothly.

Reprogramming your mind is not an easy task, but let’s face it, what in healing is actually easy? It is so much easier to fall apart then it is to put yourself back together. Society as a whole has been in a state of control rather than flow and this shift, we are all experiencing is placing the state of consciousness back into flow rather than dominance. You are purging your old ways and moving into an elevated state of being. You are letting go of that lack mentality and moving into an abundant space. You are setting your boundaries and acknowledging your worth. You are building stronger foundations and allowing your needs to be met. You are feeling more connected to what you want and less connected to what others tell you that you should have. You are flowing with your timing more (still fighting it a little) because let’s face it, this journey is definitely not linear. You are feeling more in tune with your body and allowing yourself to surrender to the moment and to what is. You are embodying love and embracing all of your existence. This is not happening all of the time. It feels as though it comes and goes in spurts. Like you’re sprinting one minute and then sleeping the next. You are in need of balance and self confidence as you move through this reprogram. You are in chaos and then absolute peace. You are so self-assured, then cowering in fear. You are the sun shining bright, then the moon cast in total darkness. It is ok to be where you are and the first step in the reprogram is to accept where you are and to be ok with where you are.

Once you acknowledge your current place in life you have the ability to shift everything. Once you acknowledge the suffering you’ve been through, you move out of that suffering and into joy. If you think about your suffering, it keeps you in a constant state of that suffering and an inability to move forward. Acknowledge what you have experienced, acknowledge what your life has been. But do not play into the story, play into the facts. It is a rabbit hole to think about what could have been or what could be. That is your egoic mind trying to stay relevant. The more you focus on the straight facts, the more you are able to let go of what trauma binds you have and move into a higher plane of existence. Look at your relationship with yourself, your friends, family, romantic partners, and money. How are you stuck in lack? What patterns are you repeating? What trauma from childhood is still rearing its ugly head? How are you reactive or reactionary with situations? Do you internalize, avoid externalize or eat your emotions? How do you deal with the situations and circumstances in your life that are uncomfortable for you? Do you fight, fly or freeze? The more you can tap in and ask yourself these questions, the more you can get to the bottom of your current narrative and shift it into something beautiful for you.  Then ask yourself what your family dynamic was like. Ask yourself who created your priorities, was it you, society, or someone you care about? What is it that keeps you stuck in this cycle within your narrative? Was there trauma, self-victimization, betrayal, narcissistic parenting, past life cycles or a lack of love from your parents when you were younger? What does our inner child need that they are not getting and how can you give that to them? These are all difficult questions but can lead you to a simple answer. Through all of this, let me tell you, it is going to feel like it is getting a lot worse before it gets better. You are going to feel plunged into the depths of your soul and feel lost in the dark. Just remember that you are the light. You are the one who will save your soul and you are the one who will love you first. You will be there for you, and you will be your own knight in shining armor.

It is not just about doing all of the spiritual work to get through this reprogram. You have to change your daily routine and create one that works for you. What is going to bring you into a space of gratitude and positivity? What can you do that makes your soul happy for just five minutes in the morning? What can you do to make your inner child happy? Make sure your routine is balanced with your needs, responsibilities, desires, and healing. You also need down time as well. You are a human being not a human doing. Sometimes you have to just be to allow the process to integrate. Society tells us to go go go all day everyday or you are lazy. It is ok to just be and relax and let your body and mind rest! If you cannot afford to travel, then let your mind wander. Let your mind travel to all of the places you want to go and let your mind be free. Without judgement, allow your creative juices to flow and allow yourself to just exist in whatever realm it needs to. This is actually part of the manifestation process. Picture yourself in all of the places you want to go and then shift your narrative and let spirit come in and reward you for the work you are doing. Allow yourself to read. Read fiction and spiritual or self-help books. Let your mind be entertained, enlightened, educated, and elevated. The more you read, the more you learn or can envision a world that is so different from ours through the eyes of the author. Fiction can aid just as much as nonfiction and self-help books ca. They take you out of conscious thought and the egoic mind and put you into the present moment to just be as you are. It is a beautiful and magical part of life.

Once you step into the magic, the reality you need to look at will hit you, you will be inspired to create the life you want to. What are some stimulants that are holding you back currently though? Possibly caffeine and alcohol. Now I am a firm believer in enjoying yourself and allowing a drink here and there, but caffeine and alcohol block your ability to think creatively and connect to what spirit wants you to see and know.  These block your emotions and your ability to connect within on a deeper level. When you connect within, you also connect above and below which brings you into alignment with the holy trinity that you are, and that life is. You need to make sure you are sleeping enough and that your spiritual practice is fulfilling and that you are diligent with it. Again, it is about balance with all things. Do not overdo it or you will burn out. Too much of anything is not good. It is about sporadic placement and fulfilling enterprises. What are you eating, drinking, and practicing in all areas of life? You are absorbing (drinking in) your surroundings, embracing soul nourishment (eating and embracing life itself) who and what you surround yourself with will bring you either great joy or great pain. It is not just the food and drink, but all aspects of life that can elevate or drain you.

Other ways you can reprogram your mind are while you sleep. The subconscious mind is extremely powerful and has the ability to work for you while you are asleep or awake. Listening to sleep hypnosis, guided meditations and binaural beats are great tools to have. Reinforcement is another. It takes repetition to make something permanent. You have been in your current narrative for a very long time, it will take repetitive reinforcement to make it a new way of thinking and life. The visualizations are a great partner to almost any tool. The more you add a visualization of yourself acting, receiving, thinking, or behaving in the way you want to it starts to shift your brain. This all works together. It is not just about one tool, but about many working together to create one cohesive, healed, and whole version of you. You also have to get comfortable with the unknown. The more you surrender to the now, the less you will be affected by the fears, doubts, and anxieties of tomorrow. Your egoic mind conquers and rules you based on trauma and things that have not happened yet. The more you surrender and continue to work on yourself the faster you get to where you want to be. It is through accepting the current moment and the suffering you have experienced that allow you to let go of the control and flow into the depths of the universe where you connect to your truly infinite soul and spirit. It is when you get lost that you are truly found.

Your narrative is shifting and the more you allow it to move, the more you find your soul. You can reprogram anything if you know how and do the work for it. Allow that to happen for you and watch your life magically transform.

-Lady Phoenix

How to Release Self-Victimization and the Victim Mentality

Releasing self-victimization and the victim mentality is not an easy task. It is quite difficult and a large undertaking. It is something you have lived with for many years. Even your ego has adopted its ways and perpetuated the cycle on a daily basis. It is living rent free in your head and constantly allows for you to flip the script by changing your perspective on situations instead of seeing them as they are. You could have dated or been raised by a narcissist or experienced real trauma at some point in your life. You could have been bullied in school, beaten by your family members, treated as if you were nonexistent or always saw that nothing went your way. Your mom or dad could have had the victim mentality, or you could have watched them go through a terrible divorce. Whatever is the root of it, is something very real and upsetting, traumatizing or negative that caused you to feel as though something is always wrong and someone is always against you. It may be so deep rooted that you may not even know it exists within you. The way to heal it is to acknowledge it.

The victim mentality is not a mental illness or a disorder, it is a learned behavior. Some of the typical symptoms of this would be, the inability to take responsibility for your actions. You are always blaming others for what has happened or what they have done to you. It is extremely difficult to see what role you could have played in the situation that causes you discomfort. If you are always upset and complaining but can’t seem to find a solution to the problem or take others advice when it comes to finding a solution, you are stuck in this mindset. Do you always feel powerless? Do you feel as though no matter how hard you try, you don’t have the power, money, authority, skill, charisma to get yourself out of the situation? It seems as though no one will help you and you don’t know what to do. This is yet another sign of that pure victimization programming that happened long ago. You could also, tend to feel bouts of depression, be down about relationship issues, have a hard time establishing meaningful and lasting relationships, self-sabotage or speak to yourself in an extremely negative manner. You have none or very low self-confidence and you tend to be quick to move into feelings of anger, resentment or frustration. You see the world as the sky is falling rather than the shy is blue and there are beautiful shapes in the clouds. You feel like there is no point in trying to fix anything and want to give up constantly, because it is always your fault, or you can’t do anything right, or it just wont work. The victim makes excuses and constantly says “it’s not my fault.” You may take some responsibility, but it is difficult to look at the bigger picture and take all of the responsibility that belongs to you.

A lot of this stems from betrayal, but this is directly linked with codependency and manipulation. There are so many out there who are genuinely good people that do not understand that this is a narcissistic quality and comes from being raised or surrounded by narcissists as well as dealing with other trauma. These are not qualities of a narcissistic person, but narcissistic tendencies that are learned behaviors. There is a major difference there. I know some who are reading this may be triggered. I am not calling you a narcissist, but there are narcissistic tendencies in all of us. Myself included. If you try to manipulate a situation to have an outcome that is favorable to you, or don’t want to take responsibility or be made to look bad in the eyes of someone else even if your behavior could make you look that way, if you try to minimize your role in something or blame someone else, or ever say its’s not my fault, or try to gain sympathy from others then you’ve been there at some point. It is ok and it is fairly normal.

We live in a society that likes to place blame on others. People are so afraid of being “cancelled” that they won’t take full responsibility for their actions and learn to do better. The society that we live in has cultivated and bred resentment and victims for thousands of years. It is a conquering and colonizing society that breeds takers, judgement, hate, patriarchy and individual success rather than community equality, balance and love. So many people today are saying…my ancestors never owned slaves and I shouldn’t be judged for what my ancestors did, or why are you taking that personally I didn’t mean it that way, or you’re too sensitive. People can’t take responsibility for their privilege, their actions or their own response to things. I know that I just opened a whole can of worms by talking about white privilege but that is a whole other post to dive into what society has done to the BIPOC community. But it does tie into the fact that this society that is awakening is learning to take responsibility for the past, for their ancestors and are clearing major cycles to breathe new life into the future.

The more you dive within and take responsibility, the more you set the victim mentality aside. Charles Sykes, author of A Nation of Victims, states “if you add up all the groups that consider themselves to be victims or oppressed, their number adds up to almost 400 percent of the population.” That is an enormous number, that is 4x the population. That means that every single person four times over thinks that they are a victim or oppressed. There is so much we can do to shift and change this, but it starts by doing the internal work. The internal work shifts society and by shifting society it shifts for mankind and future generations. It is not about us working together, it is by working on yourself that helps you realize that you can work together. But to be fair there are so many marginalized voices that have been poach from and appropriated from that it is time to listen to your intuition and what they have to say to make life so much better. Do not be a sheep, be a lion who is regal and royal and looks out for his or her den. If you are reading this, it just means your den is so much larger than the average lion.  You are here to shift society and the population and collective as a whole. In the words of Steve Maraboli “The victim mentality will have you dancing with the devil, then complaining you’re in hell.” You may not like your circumstances, but it is how you change those circumstances. Someone who is very dear to me would complain all the time about someone in our life. There was a constant uproar about the other person’s behavior. I would give advice and it would never be taken. There was always an excuse. There were so many solutions that this person could see and that I would offer up. At one point I realized that this person was feeding into the mentality and almost addicted to that feeling. There was nothing I could do to get them out of it. They had to want to remove this energy, feeling and behavior. Some people complain simply because the victim mindset is all they know. Some are trying to figure out the next course of action and some don’t even realize they’re doing it. You have to want to release the mindset and mentality to make positive changes in your life.

How do you actually release that victim mentality? It starts by taking a hard look at your behavior. What are you not taking responsibility for? Start taking internal accountability for how you talk to and how you treat yourself, then shift that to an external frame. How are you talking to and treating others? The more you acknowledge your behavior, the more you already begin to shift the mindset. Set boundaries with yourself and with others. When you feel yourself jumping to anger, frustration or resentment, allow yourself to stop and ask yourself where the root of these feelings are coming from. Look for solutions to your problems instead of dwelling on the problem itself. Instead, ask yourself how can I fix this? Look at the root of the problem and see if it is a pattern that is repeating throughout other aspects of your life. Is it a you problem or a them problem? More often than not it is a you problem. More so in how you look at it, how it can be resolved, but more importantly it is how you respond or react to it. Ask yourself If you are being a moral elitist. Are your values and thoughts more important than others? Do you need validation for your victimhood or are you looking within for the answers? So many times, we see people telling the same story over and over again. If you tell it two or three times, you are trying to rationalize and make sense of it, if you are telling it four or more times, you are seeking recognition or validation of your victimhood. It is ok to ask for help, but you have to be open to the solution. You also have to be open to the fact that you might be a part of the problem. Do you have empathy for yourself and for others or are your beliefs so limiting that there is no room for you to shift the narrative? The narrative generally starts in childhood, but there can be cycles that are repeating through your lives.

Diving into your subconscious is the best way to help with this process. Journaling and talking to a mentor, coach or therapist can also be wildly beneficial. The more you can show gratitude and appreciation for what you already have, the bigger the shift can be as well. Start your day with a gratitude list. The more you can shift your thinking to positive thoughts the more you shift your perspective and narrative. It is not going to happen overnight. You will find yourself in a negative space and then try to shift, then you will catch yourself mid thought and shift afterward. You will then feel the negativity midway and shift in that moment. Soon, you will feel the negativity and shift before it happens, then you will find yourself in a positive mindset. You won’t always be positive, but you will be able to find your way back into the light easier than ever before.

The less you label yourself as a victim and begin to find solutions, the more that you can be in a space of gratitude and connected to the highest version of yourself. Validate yourself and your experiences, but do not let them define you. Make sure that your self-talk is beautiful and positive. When you find yourself slipping into depression or feeling down over relationship issues find something that makes you happy. What is your happy place? You need to forgive yourself and forgive others. The more you hold onto past trauma, the more you hold resentment and keep yourself stuck in the victim mindset as well as the past. Meditation, hypnosis and mantras allow you to step into your subconscious and connect to your breath which keep you in the present moment. When you stay in the present moment you realize that nothing is wrong. The more present you are the less your egoic mind can wander and hurt your feelings or give you depression or anxiety. When you feel a problem arising, allow yourself to look for a solution rather than staying stuck in the negative space.

None of this is easy. It is all extremely difficult, but the more you want to heal and the more you allow yourself the ability to be open to the process, the more you flow and find your narrative changing. You learned this mindset and behavior and you can unlearn it as well. It is something you have probably spent more than a full decade living in, so it will take an adjustment period. But small steps lead to giant leaps of progress. You do not have to stay stuck unless you want to. The more you realize that this mentality is directly linked with depression, codependency, anxiety, fear, childhood trauma, the more you realize that all of the work you have been doing on yourself is digging up everything that no longer serves you. All of these layers of trauma are all interconnected and the more you shift, the more you uproot until there is nothing left but maintenance. Then you maintain and implement all you have learned and integrated. You are transforming at quantum speeds and are shifting your timelines to be the best version of yourself and the most healed your soul has ever been. I am proud of you and always here for you. I see you. I respect you. I honor you and I am grateful for you. I know this is not easy, but you are not chicken little, and the sky is not falling. You can do this! You have so much going for you, you just have to open yourself up to the possibilities and the solutions will magically present themselves to you. The more you let go, the more you flow. Flow into the vast beauty that is your limitless life.

-Lady Phoenix

Closing the Door to Codependency and Opening the Door to Love

When one door closes another one opens or so the saying goes. Maybe all of the doors are already open, you just have blinders on. You are so used to everything being closed to you and so much false reality that you don’t realize that you can walk through any door at any time. Anything that you need in life is available to you whenever you need it, you just have to ask, believe and be ready to receive it. You must do the work to be open to your blessings. Sometimes you need to clear your distortions and trauma to allow yourself to see the opportunities or doors at the right time. No matter when you see the door, you have to remember that all doors open with love. Love is the universal key to open anything in life. Love unlocks all aspects of life. Sometimes you need to go through a specific situation to realize that your next door or opportunity is waiting for you. You may have closed yourself off from something and need to find the lesson or reestablish some aspect of love to move through the blockage to the open door. You may think that certain door or opportunities are closed to you but, the doors are never closed, they might simply be hidden or blocked by your thoughts. You close your vision to the blessings. You close your heart to these amazing moments and when you find your blockage and walk through the lesson, the door swings wide open. You have everything you need within you; it is your mind and your lack mentality that makes you think that something isn’t right for you or that you don’t deserve it.

Why is it you feel undeserving? Why do you feel as though something won’t come to you? What keeps you stuck in a negative mindset? What put you there in the first place? All of these questions come from lack mentality which stems from childhood and/or past life trauma and distortions. The more that you look at anything negative or “blocked” in your life, the root of it will be in lack mentality. That lack mentality comes from being domesticated instead of being the free, wild spirit you were born to be. You were meant to let go of your inhibitions, to let your hair down, to be unencumbered, to do what your soul craves! When you are told to be quiet or stop doing this or that is not appropriate, or little girls do or don’t do this, or be a man and act like it, your soul dies little by little. Your soul is meant to roam free like the buffalo or any wild animal. Your soul is a species of its own and that allows you to be an individual and truly authentic. “The soul of love is the most endangered species…the soul has no gender” – Clarissa Pinkola Estes. The soul and love are one and the same. To get back to your core and to find yourself in a space of freedom you have to come from love. To truly get to a state of love, you have to heal your childhood trauma and let your soul run free. You have to forgive yourself and forgive those who entangled you, changed you and domesticated you. When you can forgive, truly forgive and let go, you release what no longer serves you and you open your mind to that blocked door, opportunity and feeling.

How do you get to a space of forgiveness? It takes you diving within your soul to be able to acknowledge the root of the issue holding you back. Let’s use codependency for example. This is one issue so many of my clients are dealing with and it is extremely difficult to break or overcome. What does codependency look like? It is the inability to make decisions in a relationship because you don’t want to upset the other person, Difficulty identifying your feelings, because your feelings tend to not matter and only your partner’s feelings are important to you, there is no sense of self, you have a hard time communicating and tend to sweep things under the rug, because you want to always be around them and not have there be any conflict. You cannot set boundaries and don’t make time for yourself or self-care. You tend to be manipulative or easily manipulated. You value your partner’s approval more than your own, you generally have low self-esteem. You are dependent in one or many ways on your partner and you take responsibility for your partner’s actions. You need someone to need you, you need to be in constant communication or have a lack of trust in your partner. You evade feeling anything too intensely and avoid diving into what the real problems are. You tend to bully yourself emotionally and there is so much fear involved in a relationship like this.

This behavior stems from you not getting what you needed as a child. Maybe you were first born and received all of the attention and then your sibling was born and needed significantly more attention than you did. You had to become self sufficient and fight for attention. You realized you weren’t worthy of your parent’s attention. Maybe your parents were overprotective, and you didn’t understand how to be independent. Maybe you were raised by a narcissist that needed to make everything about them and you lost all sense of self. You could have worked with or been best friends with a narcissist or even dated one who changed your relationship mapping. This can create a relationship addict within you or simply an addiction to the person you are dating. This is the fear of being alone, the fear of being yourself, the fear of so much in life. This all stems from your independence and self-worth. Codependency itself is not a mental disorder or illness, but those who are codependent tend to be empaths who attract those with these illnesses or disorders.

Codependent relationships are not doomed to fail, but they take a lot of work to sustain the lifetime you may desire it to have. It takes work, inner insight and balance. You have to see what your denials are, what causes you anxiety, what are your compulsions, what are your emotions that you are avoiding and how do you abuse yourself or others. Both parties need to be aware of these in order to get to a healthy place to fix the relationship. For the individual who wants to fix or heal these issues, introspection is imperative. You have to be willing to dive into the deepest fears and into the tiniest crevices of your heart to unearth anything that is trauma related and holding you back from achieving your best self and living your best life. More often than not what coincides the childhood domestication is the sexual abuse or assault that breaks down your self-worth and makes you feel devalued. You have to release the victim mentality and move into the warrior spirit that allows you to understand that what you went through is not ok by any means, but you do not have to carry it with you anymore. You use that experience to set boundaries, forgive in your heart the person that harmed you and more importantly yourself and move forward with your own power to be able to fully embrace your future with love.

How do you break codependent habits and behaviors that have existed within you for lifetimes possibly? Find support and the help of a mentor, counselor, therapist or friend. When you find yourself in a negative frame of mine, restructure your thoughts into something more positive. The more you catch the negative thought and restabilize them into positivity, it won’t be easy, and it will take time, but you can get there with repetition. Don’t feel like you have to be a workhorse and go go go 24/7. Allow yourself the time to take breaks, to get outside and to stop and smell the roses so to speak. Setting boundaries are going to be super important for you. Healthy boundaries can sound like…I will think about that and let you know, I don’t feel comfortable with that, Is there another option? Thank you for your opinion, but I need to do what feels right for me. I know that I said I would attend, but I am too tired and need to take care of myself. Can we talk about this when I have had time to calm down or process? I don’t feel comfortable with that, I don’t want to do that. I appreciate the offer, but I am going to stay in tonight. It is ok to say no, it is ok to flake, it is ok to put yourself and your needs first. It is ok to do what feels right for you. It is honestly ok! You have to understand that what you need comes first. You have to put your oxygen mask on first before you can help anyone else.

When you first start practicing independence, it is going to feel like you are being selfish. You do not have to overexplain anything, simply do what you need to for you and tell yourself that it is ok. Do not seek validation for your actions or words. Journal to find out what your true needs are, separate from others. Practice communicating with others. You may stumble and be nervous, but it is ok, just keep trying. Stand firm in your boundaries, this is the best way to take your power back, nurture yourself and show yourself and your inner child unconditional love. Release your attachment and surrender to the outcome of the situation. Whatever is meant to happen will and it will be either a blessing or a lesson. The more you stand in your power, the less your soul is domesticated in codependency. The more you can free yourself from the repetitive cycles, the more you heal your soul.

Domestication can happen in childhood but can also happen from multiple past life cycles that are presenting themselves to be acknowledged and released in this life. Past life regression, hypnosis, spiritual mentors/coaches, meditation and journaling can all help you dive deep into your subconscious to find the root of this cycle to let it go. For those who are empaths and spiritual beings, you have to remember that you can also feel the energy of the collective and that sometimes you are meant to transmute for the entire collective here on Earth. Keep a circle around you of souls you can rely on for support. Allow yourself the space and grace to get through this and know that you are not alone. Codependency is one of the strongest distortions within the collective and has a pull so strong that it is so difficult to release. You can do it and you are strong enough. It is not easy as I said before, but you wouldn’t be reading this if you couldn’t do it. You have the ability to get through anything. If this is something you need help with, I am here for you and so many other mentors are as well. Find what works for you and go at your own pace. The path to authentication is a long one but it is worth it in ever aspect. It is the path to your best life and the path to freedom. It brings your soul home an where your soul feels most at home is in love. Spirit has the vibration of love and so do you. You are spirit and spirit is you. You are love, the more you release your distortions, the more you realize there is not one single door that is closed to you. When you release codependency, you regain your worth and you open your heart. You are amazing in every way; you just have to believe it. I see you; I hear you; I honor you and I respect you.

-Lady Phoenix

The Divine Feminine & The Divine Masculine on the Path through Twin Flame Awakening

A spiritual teacher does not introduce you to new beliefs, it gives you the opportunity to come back to your soul and retrieve the beliefs that are authentic to you at the depth of your being. A teacher guides you on a journey within yourself to heal and find your inner most self to find inner peace. They remind you of who you are, and to allow you to come home to your soul. When you come home to your soul, you realize the archetype that you hold within you or the many archetypes that exist within you. Many of you reading this have found parts of your soul and are ready to come home to its depths. For so many of my clients, they have been guided and told to believe one thing or another in regard to who they are and what they should be doing. All I can tell you here is to trust your intuition and help guide you to your own realizations within your soul.

You already know in your soul what your beliefs are, and it is up to you to shed your distortions to come home to your innocence and spirit in a sense of love and gratitude. You have to meet your shadow head on and fill that with love and light. To fill you shadow with both of those allow you to embrace the dark feminine and dark masculine to balance your energy within your being. I will not introduce you to new beliefs, because your souls is already aware of everything that resonates within it. You simply have to trust the feelings within your body to determine if it is for you or not. You cannot take everything as it comes in regard to information, you have to ask yourself what it means to you and decide for your own soul. Any spiritual teacher, myself included simply open your eyes to truths and help you to process world views and spiritual beliefs, you choose which beliefs you want to reintegrate into your core and open into you being.

For a lot of the divine feminine collective, they are the holy mother, the strong woman and warrior, they are the divine mother, goddess, queen, witch and high priestess. They are the true essence of femininity and containers of love for the world. They are the proof that there is good in this world. Proof that they are creators, they can manifest their prayers and turn them into reality. Their thoughts are powerful, and they have the ability to strengthen their beliefs in humanity which brings about healing for the world. They are here to bring that Earth mother and feminine energy back to a world that has made them out to be flesh fantasy. They are here to take their power back and how to be in the pure form that humanity has rejected for far too long.

Within the divine masculine collective, they are the holy father, the brave and courageous warrior, God, magician, king, emperor, provider and protector. They are the divine entity here to shift the patriarchy and bring chivalry and true masculinity back to this world. They are the true containers for those around them. To be the emperors in royal attire, they shift their outer layer of thinking from distorted masculinity and demonizing women to the authenticity of their soul that women are to be loved and protected. They will shift the paradigm to show that it is safe to be around men and how to balance all aspects of life. They are here to manifest a new and healed reality within society and strengthen the beliefs in the masculine and feminine dynamic.

(Masculine and feminine are fluid and exist in all people. This channel is specifically related to gender roles and how this will shift in society and how it has played out over time)

How do we get to this new world of beautiful energy? It is Forgiveness. Forgiveness is the key to freedom. Truth is painful, it shows where you are still wounded and what you are in denial of. It shows what society is afraid of and what it is avoiding or sweeping under the rug. This world is in denial of what is truly happening, or shall I say a few are aware but try to keep the current dynamic flowing in their favor. Society as a whole is in denial of how much the patriarchy has shifted the true essence of human nature and dominates and domineers the women or feminine essence in the world. The patriarchy has shifted the world and colonized the brains of everyone and everything. The current society is reminiscent of a parasite feeding on the collective brain of humanity and reshaping everything it is supposed to be. Society is the illness that removes individuality and transfers the nature of what natural law is supposed to look and feel like. It creates a victim mentality that also has a mob mentality. Those who are awakened and are awakening are the warriors of this spiritual and galactic movement. They are the ones stepping out of that Roman mob and are using their voices to say live when the whole arena is shouting to kill the slave or gladiator. The warrior is not the gladiator, the gladiator is in survival mode and is still a victim of the oppressor. The warrior stands apart from the masses or even within the masses waiting for the right time to make their move.

The victim represses and the warrior refrains. To refrain is to understand and to express in the right moment. The victim doesn’t express what is going on within. It is swept under the rug and a part of them dies a little more each time this is done. The victim is controlled, the warrior is authentic. The victim cowers, while the warrior stands tall. The warrior may have at one point been the victim but has since elevated into a different mindset. They have removed themselves from that narrative and are now authentic and true to their beliefs and morals. The victim is in ego and controlled by the external forces within society. This is the unconscious or sleep walking that keeps them locked into their false reality. The warrior is awake and ready to transcend to their highest timeline. They fight to work through their trauma and distortions to enter in to a new and beautiful world that has an authentic reality. The divine masculine and the divine feminine in this warrior state work together to balance the energy and bring forth new earth. It is through their love that society as a whole transcends the awareness that is keeping the masses stuck in fear and self-betrayal. These beings are truly the mother and father of this new world. They are the kings and queens of this new empire, and they are everywhere and everything and everyone. The shed light on those who are in the darkness and pave the less traveled road for those to follow them into greatness.

Those who walk the road less travelled are the Mary’s and Yeshua’s, The Isis’ and Osiris’, The Zeus’ and Hera’s, the gods and goddesses of this world. They are the duality of the stars, the sun and moon. They are the divine. These awakened ones bring society to Zion, to Lemuria, to Atlantis, to Pleiades to Sirius, to the core of our souls. They are the trees of life. Planting their roots deep into Gaia to bring strong and beautiful fruit to nourish this new reality. If you are reading this, you are them and they are you. You are the merciful, compassionate, the Starseeds, light and shadow workers. You are the healers bringing gratitude, compassion and love to this existence. You are diving into yourself and becoming the warrior and waking up from your unconscious sleepwalking state to become an integral part of the system to bring new codes to this world. You are bringing your soul’s home here to uplift humanity. You are here to fight the war against spirituality, and you are here to break the bonds of the past. You are here to awaken the masses. You are HERE!

The more you acknowledge the importance of your journey, the more you understand you are a chosen one. You are here to shift your own paradigm, to shift the paradigm that humanity understands. This brings a change to the word humanity an da deeper understanding of the mother, the father, the king and the queen, the mystic and the crone.

What does this new world look like that so many mystics, psychics, healers and teachers are referencing? It is bliss, harmonic, loving energy without pain and suffering that is self-imposed. That 5D vibration and even higher. It is a world without fear, retribution, control or ego. It is a world of God/spirit/source/divinity. It is a world of compassion, love, gratitude, and community. It is peaceful, interconnected, intelligent where every man, woman and child of any ethnicity has the ability to do what feels right to their soul. There is no hierarchy, there is not segregation, or power struggle, it is a place of oneness. It is heaven on Earth. It is a space for creative freedom, arts, music, poetry and energy shift through each other like light codes from the sun, lighting up the beauty and wonder in all. It is a rebirth of the world within the Age of Aquarius, an elevation in the consciousness of humanity a transcendence from the depth of hell to the highest peaks of heaven. Heaven and hell are not real places in existential realms. They are the ideas of bliss and suffering. Hell is the current reality of suffering, pain, restriction and loathing mixed with self-betrayal and mob mentality. This is our current paradigm. If someone is sentencing you to hell, then you are already here. There is no way spirit would sentence you to that. Spirit asked for volunteers to transform Gaia from this suffering life that has reigned supreme for thousands of years and all of you galactic warriors raised your energetic hand so to speak. You chose to be here because you are the chosen ones. You are the strong ones here to shift the planet to a space of true spiritual existence. To a place of love, to allow God/spirit/the divine to walk amongst humanity, within every single person. Only the awakened will truly be able to feel the presence of spirit, but those awakened ones light the way for others to awaken and heal.

That is why your journey is so important. You journey is to become an enlightened one. Your journey is to heal your trauma from this life and many others your souls has lived. The trick is to stay present and do the work. So many who are awakening are exhausted. You have been living a lie. You have been living a false reality and the root of it, your soul is tired. You are on a mission, and you are tapped into the collective. You feel what they feel. You walk through it before others do, so that you can light the way for them. Your path is a sacred one.

There are many steps that you have to pass through within your awakening. They may not happen in this exact sequence, but most will exist for you, nonetheless. You enter your dark night of the soul. This is a painful period of reevaluating your life. With this dark night you move into feeling overwhelmed and overloaded. You question everything. your relationships, you let go of friends, may quit your job or change careers, you remove yourself from the outside world and replenish your soul on your own.

This is your spiritual crisis if you will, and you reestablish your connection with spirit. You redefine your spirituality and begin to turn within. You meditate and do the work. When you turn within and do the work you again feel overwhelmed. Your life is changing in so many ways and at quantum speeds. It is hard to feel like you are on the right path. It is almost as if your life is exploding one moment after another. You are questioning all of your beliefs and you are unsure of what fits and works for you. You feel lost and as if you will never achieve you wish. You will want to give up. There are so many emotions flowing through you, and you may avoid feeling all of them. You are feeling so much and doing so much work, but you are still in a phase that you aren’t facing all of what you have to do and what you have inside of you. This is where you find your groove and feel as though you are doing the work and have found what works for you.

Once you feel as though you find what works for you, you complete the first phase of the awakening. You feel as though you’ve done it and are almost in the light. That is when you enter the next stage, which is the phase of denial or spiritual ego if you will. You think that you are above others who are not doing the work. This spiritual ego is one of the toughest to get through. But once you begin to see yourself in others and know that you are all one and interconnected, you begin to release this version of yourself. It is here that you may question who your divine counterpart is, or even want to move out of the twin flame journey all together. It is only by turning within and listening to your heart and intuition that you can move out of this. Transcending this phase is truly done by learning to surrender and to feel everything. To feel is to heal. To heal is to release. By releasing this outdated version of self, you realize that you are connected to all aspects of human, animal, and physical life as well as to Gaia herself. This then motivates you to connect to nature. By connecting to nature, you ground and learn how to truly protect your energy.

When you ground and protect your energy, you move into a deeper phase of your shadow work. You learn your abundant self and begin to understand your worth, set boundaries and connect to your inner child fully. This is where you awaken your spiritual gifts and begin to clarify your life purpose. You are still in a fog; the fog is just not as dense as it once was. You see the lessons before you and they are still difficult, but no where near as difficult or unattainable as they once were. You are less focused in this state at the outside world and the triggers that once threw you so far out of alignment you thought you would never get there. Yes, you are still triggered in this phase, it just takes you less time to recover from the triggers and you integrate the lessons faster and are actually grateful for the lessons. This gets you to be REALLY clear about your life purpose which brings you into mastery of all of your lessons. It is a domino effect, and you begin to exist in a state of gratitude, compassion and love.

This may seem like a lot, but all of these steps bring you into an awakened state. But is your goal achieved once you complete all of this? Not quite. You start out as a distorted masculine or feminine, from there you move into a healing feminine or masculine. Next, you elevate into the balanced masculine and feminine. This helps you transcend into the divine feminine or masculine which brings you into the divine masculine and divine feminine. At this point you realize they are not separate but both truly within you. This realization transforms you into the sacred masculine and feminine. Once these occur, you have now elevated and come into inner union, which then brings you into outer union with your divine counterpart.

You are the Mother Mary, giving birth in that immaculate conception to yourself. You are the Holy Father guiding your way in a true connection within and to source. You are lighting the way for others as You are Yeshua, and you are pure love and magic as the Magdalene. You are the wise crone and the magician manifesting all of your desires. You are the God and Goddess. You are the sun and the moon, enlightening and lighting the way for others in their own awakening. You are the sun bringing everything to light and the moon, guiding those lost in the darkness. You are all that is. You are in me and I in you. You are in all things and have all things in you. You are in transcendence. You have transcended. It is in this phase that you get to reap all that you have sewn and integrated. It is here that you get to walk the path with your divine counterpart. You met your divine counterpart to awaken that realization within yourself, to do the work and to come back together in a healed and loving sense. TO truly be divine for yourselves, each other, your children and everyone else you meet or encounter. Keep working through your awakening. The more you do, the more you bring this beautiful new earth home. It is happening and it has already happened. Be proud of yourself for how far you have come and understand there is more to do. You are the chosen one.

-Lady Phoenix

Fear & your Mind. How they are blocking your success and ascension?

What keeps you stuck in life and what prevents you from moving forward at quantum speeds is twofold. It is fear and taking things personally. Why do you take everything personally? You take things personally because of your ego and your beliefs. People more often than not believe that whatever somebody says about them is true. This comes from childhood and how someone was raised. Most people told you who they were instead of being allowed the opportunity to decide who they were and having the freedom to be exactly who they wanted to be

When you believe what somebody else says about you, you immediately get offended. When you get offended you feel the need to defend your own opinion, your belief system or your ideals of who you are. Your own opinion comes from your childhood distortions. These distortions were given to you and inflicted upon you by years of repetitive behavior and grooming to fit into society. You cannot blame others for breeding these habits and emotions into you or changing your views about yourself or life. This all happened exactly as it was meant to. People raised you to the best of their ability, with their own distortions preventing them from allowing you and your soul to be free. If you can forgive them and yourself for now knowing any better, you are able to remove yourself from the distortion to clean your wounds and begin to fully heal. To move fully into the freedom of your soul rather than staying held hostage in a prison of your own mind.

When you are able to take yourself out of that distortion you do not need to defend opinion. You are able to remove yourself from the trauma and move into a new belief system and way of thinking. That first step truly is staying present in the moment and activating all of your senses. You can initiate this by connecting to your breath, then moving onto all of your energy systems within your body. Feel the energy flow through you. Feel your organs, your blood, feel every nerve ending within your body. What do you see, what do you smell, what do you taste, stay fully present and take in every sensation in this given moment? When you do this, you realize there’s nothing you need to defend. There is nothing wrong and that there is nothing to fear. This does more than center you, it brings you into alignment and gives you the opportunity to pave a new path toward enlightenment.

What stops you from reaching the next level in your awakening and is holding you back from enlightenment? It is actually nothing. Your way is not blocked. It is your mind that is blocking you. What in your mind is creating this blockage? Fear. Fear is the root of every single negative emotion you can experience. It is the root of anger, sadness, depression, envy, jealousy, frustration, anxiety. You fear that you aren’t enough, the fear causes the anger, the sadness that you don’t have what you want in life, or that life isn’t going to get better or be the same as it once was. The fear that you won’t have what someone else does, or that you aren’t great at something, won’t finish in time or that you will get hurt again. There are so many examples of how fear can inhibit you. It is literally the root of every single problem you face. You have become addicted to it in a sense. Fear is your illness. It is the one thing you need to heal from the most. Codependency stems from fear, fear of failure or fear of being alone.

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself” Franklin D. Roosevelt. FDR was right in so many ways and this is applicable to every aspect of life. Fear is the bloodsucker of life. It is the one thing that society clings to and allows to rob you of your happiness. Every other emotion that does not feel like joy, love, gratitude or peace is all through the distortion embodied at the root of fear. How do you truly let go of fear? It is the hardest aspect of this journey to let go of. You have to see what you are truly afraid of. Every single time you feel anything other than joy, happiness, contentedness, or bliss, dive into your emotions. TO feel is to heal and the more you feel your emotions and acknowledge the root of what you are feeling, the more you can shift your inner narrative. Once you shift your inner narrative, you begin to reprogram your mind to live in a different energy. You feed it love and positivity, rather than darkness and fear. You have the ability to shift anything in your own mind, but it starts with true acknowledgment and healthy boundaries. Boundaries with yourself and with others. It starts with your self-talk and self-love. It starts with you and your desire for something different.

Once you begin to live in a different state of mind, you realize how many other people do not exist there with you and that is ok. You will be tested on your new beliefs in so many different ways. The Universe will attempt to sway you to see how steadfast you are. The rest of the world is not on your same path, and people can only meet you as deep as you meet yourself. This does not mean to do less work on yourself or to cave into the temptation around you. It means dive deeper to light the way for others to follow. You are a way shower. People will struggle with it at first and you will realize that your path is not easy. You must be honest with yourself and realistic about how to reach people. Most people are in actuality dishonest. Not because they are bad people, it is simply they are dishonest with themselves. People lie to themselves daily and even hourly. It is difficult to realize that this behavior is something all humans exhibit one way or another at different stages in life. It stems from society showing you your lack of worth. This makes people seek external validation.

When you are seeking external validation, you are lying to yourself. You know what you feel within and need someone to validate your thoughts, emotions or ego. It is a way to give yourself an ego boost or make you feel more confident. It is the child needing the validation of the elder, so they realize they’re not being punished and can move forward as they’re told to, as they’re instructed to. It is in a way staying in the role of the sheep rather than stepping into the strength and leadership of the lion.

If you stay in the role of the sheep, you stay in lack-mentality. When you are in lack and you seek external validation, there is something else that goes hand in hand with that. It is making assumptions. These lock together to keep you down. It is your inner reality that is connected to your childhood distortions of lack of worth and the punishment mentality that forms your adult beliefs. You seek validation to prove that your internal assumption is accurate. This is your own inner reality. This inner reality if bred and feeding on fear is one that can keep you trapped in suffering and pain. What is your own inner reality? It is the inner dialogue and the dream land that you allow yourself to live or exist in when reality isn’t what you want it to be. It is the relationship you created with someone who isn’t behaving the way you want them to (good or bad) it is the dream of the life you want to have. It is the movie of your life that plays in your head that can be bliss or torment. This is not the reality you live in, but the one you created in your head to feel safe or stay in the pain you’re addicted to.  

When you make assumptions based on your inner reality, you’re setting yourself up to endure constant suffering. You take it personally when someone doesn’t do or say what you want them to. People cannot live up to the standards of what you saw in your own personal reality. When people do not act in the way you want or expect them to, you feel as though they are “misbehaving.” Somewhere in your inner reality you believe they should have known better. If you are not communicating with them your own thoughts, needs, desires and feelings, then how would they know? They are most likely not a mind reader and need to understand how to be there for you. But, more importantly you need to be there for yourself. When you are not there for yourself and do not communicate, you stay stuck in your old belief system and stay imprisoned in your inner reality or dream land. This causes you to continue to make assumptions. When you assume in the real world, it generally stems from a distorted belief system as stated above. When you are in acting that distorted belief system, you are allowing for true suffering to take place. This is you projecting your assumption, your turmoil, your trauma, your distortion onto someone else. Oscar Wilde said, “When you assume, you make an ass out of you and me.”  Assumptions are not the truth; they are not reality, they are your own inner beliefs and conclusions based on your trauma, distortions and wounded opinions. To shift this, give people the benefit of the doubt. Communicate with them and allow them to show you their reality as it might differ from the one in your head. Let them show you the reality of who they are, of their motives, their actions, their feelings, their words and their needs. Let yourself remove the distortion of your beliefs and opinions through the eyes of your trauma and open yourself up to what they may be saying or showing you. It might be completely different than you expected.

The worst assumption you can make is about your interpersonal relationships or your romantic partner. Communication in all relationships is the most integral aspect of a healthy relationship. Speaking your truth, honoring yourself, honoring the other person, will aid in speaking reality into existence. To fully speak reality into existence you need to understand the needs of yourself and the needs of those around you. Asking questions and communicating your thoughts will always get you into alignment. Making a biased assumption keeps you in the distortion or outdated belief system. That distortion is staying in your inner mind/reality or seeking external validation.

You don’t need external validation. You already have the answers within you. If you can turn within, trust your intuition and your connection to spirit to release yourself from the shackles of the mistrust of others. You break free from the lack mentality and the need to be addicted to the punishment/praise mentality. You move out of the oppressor/oppressed relationship and become the authentically freed individual. If you are seeking external validation, you care more about what other people have to say about you than you do about what you have to say about yourself. Do not take things personally by getting offended by what someone says when you have asked for their opinion. This is all about self-worth and honoring who you are and who you know yourself to be. You have the ability to break the cycle and to move into your own authentic life full of bliss and self-assuredness. You have the tools; it is all about feeling your emotions and reprogramming your mind. It is not easy, it is actually quite difficult to decode what has been active for your entire life, but it is worth it to you and all of those you encounter and will follow in your footsteps.

You light the way for others by expressing your own divinity. You do this by appreciating where you are in life and showing love not only to yourself, but to everyone you encounter. This begins to transform your belief system and helps to shift the narrative. This loving, divine energy helps to bring back your childlike essence. It gives you back your freedom, The freedom of your soul to be exactly who you want to be. TO return to the innocence and joy your soul experiences by being who you truly are. The first step to take in getting to this place is awareness, to lean into your triggers, emotions and fears to combat them. To do this you must be the warrior and the goddess. You must fight to break the cycles and patterns and nurture yourself with love to reprogram your mind. You are capable of doing this in every aspect of the way. Set daily goals and don’t be so hard on yourself. If you don’t succeed the way you want to, then try again tomorrow. You are divine and you have the ability to change so many lives including your own. There is nothing stopping you. The only block as I said above is your mind. So, dive into your beautiful mind and remember who you are. The rest will all fall into place the more you simply love yourself.

-Lady Phoenix

What is the cause of Self Abuse and why do you choose that over Personal Power?

How do you step into personal power? How do you find power in your life when you feel as though you don’t have any? The first step in this is difficult but it is imperative to initiating your journey through the evolution of your soul and your connection to spirit. You start by keeping your word to yourself. This is masculine energy. This allows others to keep their word to you as well. This is how you create; this is your channel from spirit. When you are born the only thing, you are truly born with as a survival instinct is your ability to cry out. All animals and living thing on this planet were born with a survival instinct. As that human, animal, thing, organism matures and grows it has the ability to strengthen that natural ability. Humans are born with a voice. The ability to call out for help. The more you grow, the more you learn, the more you strengthen that ability to form words, thoughts and communicate your needs. Your voice is your power. It is your survival. It is your direct connection to spirit. Your thoughts stem from the creator, from source and filter through your mind, into your brain allowing your previous experiences to dictate what you need to know. It is essentially a filter for all of your information. Through there you speak what has been filtered into existence. Your words carry weight and the more you keep your word the more you are able to connect to spirit and to take back your power.

Working through your distortions allows you to change how filtered your information from spirit is. Your ego is the greatest filter you must deal with. It stems from childhood and past life trauma and situations that alter your integrity and break your spirit to fit society’s mold of domestication or acceptance of the norm. This creates your personality. Your current state is based on what others told you to believe and created the integrity and moral capacity that your elders who raised you instilled in you. Now is the time to self-rule. To “domesticate” yourself. To break free from the bonds placed upon you through the eyes of a distorted society that didn’t see the authentic life. They raised generation after generation with the pre-conceived trauma that existed within the line perpetuating cycles that your soul has chosen to break free from.

One trauma that your soul is trying to break free from is judgment. The way you judge yourself is the harshest you will ever be judged. When you judge your actions, your reject your true self. You believe that your actions are wrong based on the upbringing you endured and the norms of society that were placed upon you. You learned through repetition as a child with distinct behaviors and rewards or punishments for those behaviors what was right and what was wrong. This created a false sense of justice in your eyes. When you feel judgement upon yourself or others, this brings negative feelings of self, image. When you feel negative actions have occurred, you feel the need to punish yourself. You were punished as a child and so the cycle continues through adulthood. You are now parenting yourself and possibly others. This punishment at this point on yourself is now self-abuse. This twisted sense of right and wrong allows for judgement and punishment of self which then projects outward to others. This sets your precedence for how much you abuse others, while at the same time it determines how much you abuse you will tolerate from others.

How do you decipher your level of abuse?  Start with your self-talk. If you speak negatively to yourself or judge the way you look in the mirror you are allowing yourself to do this to others and allowing others to do this to you. How do you justify the amount you abuse yourself? This is all about tuning into yourself on a regular basis. Keep a note in your phone or on a piece of paper for a week straight if you can. How many times per day do you catch yourself judging others or your own actions, behaviors or looks? Even if you don’t write it down, the more you acknowledge it and catch it in the moment, the more attuned you become to the pattern you are trying to alter or break. The more attuned you are, the more you notice it. Once you notice or acknowledge it, you can say something nice to yourself or the other person. After a while you will have broken the cycle and won’t be in such harsh judgement. There are so many layers to this though.

The deeper you dive into this this, the more you realize how ingrained this behavior is in your soul and humanity in general.  People pleasing is also a type of abuse. It is self-betrayal. When you betray yourself to please others you are negating and neglecting what your inner self, your soul is trying to tell you it needs, wants or hopes for. Allow yourself to speak your truth to break free from this. Put yourself first. It is ok to say no. It is ok to back out of plans. It is ok to ask for more time to make a decision and to think things through. It is ok to ask someone not to ask you something or talk about something with you. Setting boundaries is self-care. Self-betrayal is abuse. When you walk away from these patterns, you attune to a higher timeline and version of yourself.  These steps are the beginning of transitioning into self-love instead of self-abuse and self-rejection to self-acceptance. When you start to see the beauty in everyone else and in yourself, you start to come from a space of love instead. This raises your vibration and clears some of your distortions.

What is perfection? Perfection does not exist. It is a false narrative created by society that brings you into fear consciousness and traps you into striving to be something you are not and placing you on a constant journey of self-betrayal. Because of society telling you to be perfect and placing you in competition with others, it alters your sense of self and the image you have or should be in your own mind. What image of perfection have you created? How do you feel as though you are not enough? What are you not doing that you think you should be? What do others have that you do not? These are questions that you should not be asking yourself. The only person you should be in competition with is yourself.

You reject yourself when you strive for perfection. Your distortions were caused by those who raised you broke your self-integrity and self-love and freedom. How can you forgive yourself for not being perfect? Tune into you I AM illusion. The more you acknowledge what the illusions are, the more you find the reality you are meant to have. Reject anything that doesn’t feel right in your gut and do the things that feel right in your heart. Trust your process and know that you are exactly where you are meant to be. You are who you are and that is beautiful, magical and divine. No one can be you, stop trying to be like anyone else. The more you radically accept yourself, the more in alignment you become with your soul and the universe.

What is your dream? What is society’s dream? Society’s dream is to have few thinkers and basically robots that do as they are told. They want people who are unawakened and are sheep. You are the lion not the lamb. You are the divine being, not an entity to be manipulated. You are not a waste of space; you are a god and a goddess wrapped up in one incredible package. Your dream is to be authentic, and to achieve anything that your soul desires. Just make sure that your dream is for you and no one else. Spirit will reward you when the time is right and when you are super clear on what you want. When you are in a void or a state of unknowing, you are in a state of fear. This makes your personal dream an ongoing nightmare of fear. Fear that you will not ever attain it or potentially fear that you will. When you fear not attaining it, it stems from you not feeling worthy of it. When you fear that you will attain it, you fear that it will be taken away from you, generally because of worth, but it can also be out of self-betrayal and punishment as a child. When you realize that your fears are debilitating, you realize that you are choosing suffering over growth. Why do you choose suffering over actual growth? Because the suffering and fear are the known and the growth is the unknown. When you move out of what is known, your fear takes over and brings you into the trauma of the past. It takes strength and courage to move out of the known and into the light. This is all extremely difficult to do, but it is attainable. You will not see immediate results, but once the balls tarts moving and the roots have grown deep from the seeds you have planted, there will be no stopping you. Once you awaken to the reality of your life, there is non going back to sleep. I welcome you to the reality of your existence and can’t wait to see what your path holds for you. Welcome to the next stage of your awakening. I am so proud of you.

-Lady Phoenix

Illusion versus Divine Truth

What is the illusion and what is the divine truth? To start you have to acknowledge if you are obsessing/overanalyzing the thoughts in your head or if you keep hearing the same repetitive thought. Spirit will speak to you through your own thoughts. Telling you to meditate, go outside, go to the gym, start dancing, painting, writing etc. These are the thoughts that move you forward onto your true path. These thought that keep repeating in many different variations are the ones leading you to your divine course and absolute truth. They are guiding you to your purpose. The more you acknowledge these thoughts, the clearer you get with yourself, your authenticity and how to move forward in your life for you and only you.

The illusion you experience is fear, anger, anxiety, the pain of the past and the stress of the future. When you think of an experience you have already had or think of an experience that has yet to happen that takes you down a rabbit hole of enumerable proportions. When you focus on the past your soul is reliving the trauma you have already experienced. If you are worried about the future, you are in a space of anxiety stemming from past trauma that you expect to be repeated. The state you are in when you worry about past trauma places you in a state of stagnation. The debilitating anxiety from obsessing over a future that hasn’t happened yet also places you in a state of stagnation. A fear-based freeze that prevents you from moving into your future in a divine, enlightening and beautiful way. The only way to escape the prison of what is and what was is to heal the past to remove what was from your mind and to stay present. By staying present you are no longer chained to the past or fearing the future. By staying in the now you open yourself up to divine and unlimited possibilities.

This is how you escape the old pattern and the new pattern to step into the what is pattern. The what is pattern keeps you in the present moment. To understand how to stay in this pattern you star out of the past and future. By acknowledging and accepting your current situation, you are able to stop obsessing and stay true to your wants, needs and desires in the moment. If you accept your life as it is, then the future becomes more attainable rather than being in a constant cycle of waiting. Waiting for the promotion or job, waiting for the partner or spouse, waiting for the money, house, car or life. When you accept your life as it is, find contentment in that life, you become accustomed to the blessings that you currently have. This puts you in a state of gratitude which allows you to be open to more blessings in the future.

Where you are currently is called the space between. A lot of you are in the void. This void is not where you were but not quite where you will be. You can feel this energy and it is causing turmoil in your life. You know that you are growing and evolving, but you haven’t seen the fruits of your labor just yet. This is both exciting and frustrating at the same time. It is exciting, because you know that you will end up somewhere fantastic that is amazing beyond your wildest dreams. This is also frustrating because you know how much work you have put into yourself, and you know you aren’t there yet. Wherever there is> Just have faith, keep doing the work, keep loving yourself, stepping into your power and know that it will happen in divine time, when you least expect it and be absolutely remarkable.

Life is what you make of it. It is hard to see the beauty in life when you are focused in the fact that you don’t have what you want and are waiting for what you desire. When you can accept your life as it is you realize that life is the force of the absolute. What does this mean? It means that the more you become one with spirit, the more you step into the power of spirit. This is the realization that life is pure love. Spirit is pure love. Spirit is the force of life. You are spirit and spirit is you. This means that you have God within you. Within your intuition and within all things. You are in everything, the rain, clouds, earth, every human. Everything is you and you are everything. You mirror everything and everything mirrors back to you. All of the triggers and all of the beauty is within you. It is your time to heal and your time to shine. The more you understand your connection to spirit, the closer you get to your divinity and step into your true and divine path.

When you are unconsciously moving through life, you are living in a simulation. You are unawakened. Once you realize that God is within you, you realize that you are in everything. This coupled with staying present allows you to be in absolute alignment to become one with the universe through your most awakened self.  When you look at these facts, it takes you to a deeper understanding of what is the real illusion and what is divine truth? The illusion is that people are all separate. The reality is, we are all interconnected to each other, and we are all God. We are the ones here to shift reality to the beautiful existence that mankind is meant to experience. When you turn within and do the work it brings the present into clarity and allows you to move in synchronicity with your highest timeline. When you are in your highest timeline, you are truly aligned to your god self. When you are aligned to that god self, you are unstoppable. When you trust your intuition and your channel from spirit, you are unstoppable.

To understand the illusion, you first have to awaken, once you awaken you realize that YOU are the Divine Truth!!!

-Lady Phoenix

The Power and True Expression of Love

Love is kind in its purest form, but it is also gentle. It is sustainable and pure. It has no limits, restrictions or needs approval. It is an honest expression of the heart. It lets down its walls and embraces the whole of the object of its desire and affection. With pure love, there is no reason to hurt or shame. There is no reason to slander or change. It has no reason to feel obligated or dismissive. It has no want to bring forth guilt, fear or anxiety. It is in its true form, the most forgiving, grateful, accepting, honest feeling and action one has or will ever know.

As you embody love through distortion it morphs and changes the purity into conditional, fear-based acceptance. The distortions you are linked to from your life trauma condition you to place restrictions and try to control who you love. You fear love itself. The fear of pain, suffering and experiencing past trauma in a future experience are debilitating. This is the adolescence in the human form fighting to be heard, loved and cherished. But love has no need to control It just is love.

To get through this phase is to connect to your inner child, your soul and source / spirit. Your inner child is the one who experienced the distortions. Experienced the trauma which created the distortions that changed the way you experienced life and learned to love. To most of the world, love is not unconditional. Love is conditional. If you behave this way, you receive love and praise. Even dogs understand this. If you do something wonderful, you’ll get rewarded. To the human psyche, it is difficult to be fully authentic, when those who raised you are breaking the spirit of your inner child as they did you as a child. To heal this, it is necessary to turn within and communicate with the inner child. Ask your inner child what they need, how they feel and what will make them feel better. Bring them along in life. The only way out of this feeling is by turning inward.

The more you turn within, you can do without the fear paradigm you’ve integrated through your suffering. When you can do without that pre-programmed suffering, you find what is. This is easier said than done. But the first step in communicating and inviting your inner child along for the ride of life itself. By giving your inner child what it never received. Only you know what you did not receive and only you know in what capacity to give yourself that which you are so strongly starved for.

The next step after that is staying present. How is that possibly when the mind moves a million miles an hour and overanalyzes everything down to the tiniest detail? It starts with breath. It starts by connecting to the inner body, feeling the energy move throughout every cell, organ and vein. Feel it pulsing and bringing that life force within you. Feel your body vibrating and humming with life. Feel your energy field that exists internally waking up after being dormant for so long. When your mind is that overactive, your internal force field begins to quiet and enter a sleep phase. The more you breathe and the more you connect to yourself, it begins to reawaken. Next, embody every sense. What do you see? What do you hear? What aromatic scent fills the air? What taste is on your tongue through the food you’re eating or the air you’re breathing in? Acknowledge all of it without judgment. Be open to everything and by doing that, you begin to quiet the inner mind. When you quiet the inner mind the egoic mind has no power and you are fully present in the moment.

When you are fully present in the moment, all of your senses are activated. It keeps your mind from reacting to the past or the future. It is the ego that wants to envelop you with fear of past events or the possibility of future suffering. Nothing is happening in the past. It is already done. You open the door, acknowledge it and let it go. I cannot hurt you in the present moment. The future hasn’t happened yet. If you are learning from past mistakes, then the future cannot hurt you the way the past did. If the future hasn’t happened yet, then why let your ego cause stress and anxiety over a non-event? When you eliminate the past and the future, all that is left, is the present moment. You can accept the present moment, or you can fight it. When you fight the present moment, you are giving into fear and letting the ego take the wheel and drive the vehicle of your body, mind and life. When you let go and surrender, then you can face your intuition and allow yourself to be in harmony with you soul. Your soul is pure love. You soul wants to stop and smell the roses. Your ego wants you to wait or to rush. When you accept your life and surrender to the present moment you exist in your soul’s core.

 What you truly embody and what your soul carries in its core is love. You are love. You give love. The more open to receiving love, the closer you get to spirit. You are one of the most beautiful creations. You just have to realize it yourself. When you can connect to your inner child, stay present and accept your life as it is, then it transforms into the manifestations of your desire. Nothing vibrates higher than love and nothing marries love more than gratitude and compassion. When you exist in a state of love, compassion and gratitude, you become one with spirit. Spirit only wants the best for you. Release the mind and step into the power of love, the power of goodbye to your past and the power of hello to the present. This makes your future undeniably full of love and miracles.

-Lady Phoenix

The longest relationship you have ever had in your life is the one you have with yourself.

How do you get to know your own angelic and sovereign self? Do you really know who you are or is it that you know who the world has made you to be?

There are several ways to get to know yourself, but it truly starts with your inner child. That little version of you that was pure, had hopes and dreams and felt like they could conquer anything. Society has transformed you into a version of yourself that you may or may not like. There are certain aspects of you that you know, but do you truly know who you are at your core? Do you know the divine version of yourself that is the epitome of greatness? Many do but even more do not truly know.

When you were young you were criticized or ostracized, scolded or reprimanded for your behavior. That changed who you were into the version of you that people thought were acceptable. You started then losing parts and pieces of yourself. You were influenced by friends and family by music, sports, behavior, and likes/dislikes that made you who you are today.

How do you get back in touch and find out who you really are when no one is around? Start by listening to your thoughts. Initially when you stated talking to yourself in your head it was actually a trauma response because you knew your thoughts, ideas, opinions and feelings were safe there. You knew that you wouldn’t be made fun of or reprimanded for your desires and goals. You realized at a young age that your head was the safest place for you. So, by tuning in and listening to those thoughts you begin to grasp what you want, need and feel. How do you tune into that? Quieting your mind and discover what comes through when your brain isn’t racing a million miles an hour.

Another method you can use is assessing your relationships. Do you give too much to them and not enough to yourself? Are you taking on the shape of others? Are you going with other people’s flow instead of riding your own wave? What do you like about your relationships and what do you not like about them? Spend time diving deep into the meaning of your relationships and how you truly feel about being there with each individual. What are you passionate about in your relationships?

Next, ask yourself what you are passionate about in general. What sets your soul on fire? What makes you want to get out of bed in the morning, or what would make you want to get out of bed? What are you good at and are you passionate about what you are good at? Did you become great at something because you received praise from those around you? Did you become great at something because you were following in someone else’s footsteps, made someone else happy or you saw it as your only way out? Seriously ask yourself these questions in order to find your true desires. What makes you happy and joyful and how can you add more of that to your life?

When adding more to your life, what you need to add less of is external validation and asking for feedback from others. Start asking yourself for that feedback and become your own best friend. Spend time with yourself and learn to enjoy your company. The longest relationship you have ever had in your life is the one with yourself. Is it one you can be proud of or one that you think is lacking? Who do you want to be and what do you want to do? These are the questions to ponder. These are the questions that take you deeper into your inner mind and the core of your being to be able to assess your true reality and your relationship with life itself.

What are your life values and morals? Not what your parents, teachers, church, friends, mentors or society want you to value, believe or behave. What do you want your morals and values and ethics to be? What is the code you want to live your life by? How can you achieve this code realistically and what goals do you want to set for yourself to be the person that you can be proud of?

This is where you begin to discover your own personality and authenticity. This is how you decide what you want your future to be. This is where you take your strengths, combine them with your passions and make your life a moving prayer for your own soul to flourish. Take your strengths and build upon them and then take your weaknesses and turn them into strengths. Once you feel like you have uncovered more than you thought possible about your life then you create a Life Mission statement. What is your purpose and how do you want to be presented to the world? What aligns with your soul and how can you make the living, moving prayer into a reality?

Then look at how you handle conflicts. When you can become acutely aware of how you handle situations when you are triggered, you can begin to uproot those things that take you away from yourself. Getting to know every facet of yourself is vitally important. It is not just about the good or light stuff. It is about the darkness too. You are a beautiful balance of your past and present, the good experiences and the bad. But through it all you are whole. It is time for you to get to know the whole of you. Be honest with yourself, truly, deeply brutally and lovingly honest with yourself, then step back and assess how to embrace or change what you love.

When you can get to know yourself, you can forgive yourself and truly understand your power, sovereignty and soul. When you know yourself to the depths of your being, you are unwavering in your dedication to yourself and your purpose. You allow yourself to stand firm in your convictions and to be a divine entity. You raise your vibration and allow God consciousness to enter your sphere. The more you align with yourself, the more you align with your divinity, which aligns you with your oversoul. When you listen to your oversoul, you can never be swayed from your path and can light and leas the way for others.

So, take some time starting now and ask yourself these deep questions, get to know yourself and allow yourself to transform into the version of you that your soul is yearning to be. You are on the precipice of greatness and these questions are the catalyst to the change your soul needs. You can do this; you have all the answers within you, and you might be surprised at how much you already know once you ask the questions.

– Lady Phoenix

Duty vs. Honor

What is your duty to yourself? What is your duty in this world and what is your duty to your circle? Why do you feel obligated to do certain things and where does self-betrayal come from? This is quite simple and yet complex at the same time. Your duty to yourself is to be authentic and to do what you need, what your soul need and to honor your feelings, wants, needs and desires. Your duty to this world is to honor the duty to yourself. Your duty to your circle of family, friends and loved ones is to honor yourself and to come from a space of compassion and love.

As a society, we are led to believe if you aren’t going a million miles an hour that you are lazy or not accomplishing anything. People pride themselves on how many tasks they can accomplish in any given moment or day. It is as if the more someone wears themselves out the more, they should be rewarded. This is the principle of not taking care of yourself and being in lack mentality. I’m not saying don’t work hard, I am saying that work hard, but work smart. Take care of yourself, take care of your needs and find balance between work and pleasure in life. When you take care of everyone else before you take care of yourself you betray yourself. Where do we learn this? It comes from childhood and past life trauma. When you were a child and did not receive what you wanted or needed, you learned to betray your feelings, wants and needs for others. When you learned this, it became an ingrained part of your life wrapped up in the framework of your reality and who you are. Society praises those who accomplish a plethora of tasks, even if they are mundane. But, sometimes doing nothing is worth doing. When you can learn to honor yourself, wants and needs you stop betraying yourself.

Every single time you want to stay home, but feel guilty, you betray yourself. Every time you want to eat something for dinner but don’t want to rock the boat or speak up you betray yourself. For every boundary you don’t set you betray yourself. Every time you don’t say no you betray yourself. It is ok to say no, it is ok to use your voice, it is ok to be seen and heard. Your wants matter. Your needs matter. Your feelings matter. YOU MATTER! Your inner child needs love. The more you stay serios and don’t have fun you betray your inner child. Your inner child was betrayed, and it may have been the smallest thing, but the ripple effect has echoed through time to your current ideals and life choices. When you needed something and did not receive it as a child, you the altered your behavior to get what you wanted or needed. In doing this it caused you to seek external validation. What is the root of external validation? Codependency. What is the root of codependency? No self-esteem. Where does lack of self-esteem come from? Childhood trauma. It is one big vicious cycle. But to get through this you have to start with self-betrayal.

Self-betrayal is one of the biggest culprits of codependency and lack mentality. This trauma although affected you first in childhood, it ultimately comes from society. Society puts the need of the masses ahead of the individual. Don’t outshine anyone, don’t make others feel stupid. Children are seen not heard. Society wants you to tip toe around what people want and need. Society doesn’t want you to make others feel bad or uncomfortable. Which breeds hypocrisy and competition. This competitive mindset breeds rivalry and animosity instead of love.

When you betray yourself and come from a space of anger, rivalry or animosity, it fractures your soul. If you are fragmented, how can you take care of yourself? Who is taking care of you while you bend over backwards for others?  Allow yourself to put on your own oxygen mask before you help anyone else put theirs on. Allow yourself to delegate when you can. The saying it takes a village is accurate. It takes a group of people doing anything to take the burden off the one. Remove the burdens from your life and know that you don’t have to worry about other people, show compassion yes, but ultimately take care of yourself. Lean on the collective, lean on the support of those in your circle. Honor yourself, honor your truth, speak your truth, honor your feelings and let yourself be free in each moment. Do not worry about triggering others, because maybe you were meant to trigger them. Maybe you are meant to help them awaken or see a different perspective. The less you betray yourself, the more you lead by example for others to follow.

Forget about the word duty and start thinking about honor and love. The only duty you have is to honor yourself. Send love to yourself and your inner child. The more you do this the more you heal and ascend. The more you ascend, the more you do for humanity. If you want to fulfill your duty to humanity, then simply focus on yourself.

– Lady Phoenix

Patience is the Virtue to Birth The Age of Aquarius

The spiritual community is undergoing some massive upgrades. There has been a lot of construction and it feels like massive detours on the road. People are now impatient and want to reach their destination and are sick of being on this trip. To the universe, when you are impatient it is like a child asking their parents…are we there yet? There is so much clearing still to reconcile. The world is not in the 5D yet. This is not New Earth YET! It is something the awakened collective is working toward, but for now, patience is a virtue.

It is so hard to have patience in the age of information, when everything is at your fingertips, and you don’t have to wait for anything. You can order same day delivery on Amazon Prime, or Door Dash food to your home in under an hour. You can google information in 30 seconds, send a text in under five seconds or fly across the world in 24 hours. This is not like the past when it took months to travel to one destination, weeks to send a letter or a package or search through the Dewey Decimal System to find a book, then rummage through that book for the information you need.

This age gives people the feeling that there is something better, something more interesting or something new/different instead of putting the work in. So many people are looking for a quick fix, because that is what society is about now. Faster, better, newer. There are no spell or shortcuts to solve the issues of doing the work, waiting for your manifestations to arrive or escape the feeling of discomfort from the deep-rooted emotions that are unearthed in an awakening.

New Earth will arrive like all things in DIVINE TIME! But, for now all that the collective can do is to focus on themselves, continue their shadow work and help the collective rise. How can that be accomplished? First, try to be patient. I know that is easier said than done, but it is attainable the more you focus on your goals, desires and self the less you find yourself waiting on something that has yet to arrive. Second, when you find yourself overthinking, start journaling. Allow yourself to write in stream of consciousness. Do not edit, change or think about what you are writing, just let it flow out of your system. Whatever twists and turns arise, just let it move like water and follow that current. When you feel it come out of your system, go back and read it. You will gain clarity as to why your thought are moving in the direction that they have been. Three, notice when you feel triggered. Are you getting triggered from the same patterns, situations, people? Your triggers are your guides to healing. They give you a road map directly to the source of what is plaguing you. The more you follow that road map, you reach certain points that are pivotal to the destination. Once you visit them and explore them fully, they move out of the way for you to explore other things that are blocking you or keeping you stuck. These triggers are not obstacles or hurdles to your path, they are the check in points for your soul.

How do you get through the triggers? Journaling can help, but reiki, sound baths, meditations, grounding, channeling from your own soul, connecting to your inner child and inviting them along for the ride, getting outside in nature, music, dance, past life regressions and support from a mentor/coach or those in the community can all help you release and shift your distortions. It is not one tool to use to get through this, it takes a multitude of work and there are many, many, many layers to sift through. It is attainable and you will get there.

When you hear people talking about the fact that they already exist in 5D and they are in New Earth, that is partially true but also fairly false. The true part is that every single person on the planet is here in 3D but also exists in 5D as well. When you sleep and dream, you are in the 5D, when you meditate, you can connect to that dimension and even higher than that. The more you attune yourself you will be able to access those realms, but you cannot exist in them wholly and completely. Earth is not there yet, although it is moving in that direction. In 2020 a lot of the world woke up. They opened their eyes to social injustice, spiritual awakening and what and who were important in life. In 2021, they dove deeper into their shadow work, changed friend groups, values, goals and transitioned into a more intense part of their awakening. 2022, brough forth a sense of limitless potential, while still working through struggles. The awakening for the collective will continue until at least 2025.

A different way to look at it is this, 2020 was the year of rebirth. The babies (collective) opened their eyes to the new life and possibilities before them. 2021, they had tummy time. They were amazed by all of the thing they saw, trying to make sense of what the world was and where they fit in. 2022, the collective began to crawl. They began exploring and putting to use the information they’ve absorbed over the last two years. 2023 will be the year where they start to walk the walk. They will touch things and learn how to be sturdy on their own without the help of parents (spirit guides or external validation) The collective will be able to find stability and get a feel for their personality (their true authenticity). By 2024 The collective will be running! They will be experiencing life as toddlers but will know who they are and will have a sense of freedom! They won’t need validation or approval from others. They will be on their way to true enlightenment. And, finally by 2025, the collective will be free. Enough souls will have awakened to a new era and the Age of Aquarius will be in full effect. Lemuria will be here and the golden children in the golden age will pave the way for future generations to come. It is all happening and the more the collective dives deep and does the work the more the vibration shifts.

Patience is a virtue, the work is necessary and the love and compassion you will experience from doing all of this with a sense of gratitude will bring in big, huge blessings and rewards. The universe has your back. It is time to start believing in yourself, to allow the triggers to guide you and to have faith in divine timing. These roadblocks and detours are blessings for your future, and you will be grateful for the experience, once you come out the other side of this transformation. The collective will get there, you will get there, and you will achieve everything that you want and more. When you dive deep you find the hidden treasures of your soul. Those are the most beautiful gems you could ever find on the face of the earth. So, find your treasure and savor the victory. Your soul’s reconciliation is happening.

– Lady Phoenix

Kardashian’s Society or True Authenticity

What does it mean to love yourself? What does it mean to be happy in your own skin? What does it mean to be in harmony with your soul? Why is this so hard to achieve?

To truly love yourself it means that you love all your flaws. It means that you love yourself no matter the consequence and no matter the cost. Love is the ultimate vibration of acceptance. It is the understanding that your heart is full and that you can see past the negative because you have compassion, grace, and fulfillment in your heart. To truly love yourself it is the knowing that you are divine and perfect.

Society gives us a sense of normal that is the farthest thing from authentic. People spend their entire lives trying to fit in when they were born to stand out. Self-love is finding that inner peace and inner truth. Being completely comfortable with all of who you are at the core of your soul. This is not about the pampering spa days or days to lounge and do nothing. This is radical acceptance of your life experiences, your body and getting to know yourself and coming to terms with the fact that you are truly amazing in every way. You are perfectly designed to be in tune with your body and life path. Society tells you what the perfect body should look like, smell like, and what is sexy or unattractive.

Today’s society is superficial, full of fake breasts, butts, all different implants, and cosmetic surgeries. Ever since the Kardashians, people are changing their bodies to fit into the masses, and everyone now looks the same. Individuality is lost and authenticity is hidden. The beauty in the differences that people share is now non-existent and self-esteem, self-worth, confidence and personality have deteriorated. Everyone is afraid of being cancelled, called out or thought to not be beautiful that it is making society even uglier than it was before. When you can let go of what society thinks of you and step into your own spirit and individuality, you become successful and beautiful. That is when you become comfortable in your own skin, and you get to step free from the distortion of society.

You may still feel connected to what society thinks and that is ok. It doesn’t mean you won’t evolve and do the work to clear your distortions and become the best version of yourself. It means that you are doing the work, acknowledging what you want and in doing that, you will become one with yourself every step of the way. Like the moon, it is perfect in every phase, so are you! Your thoughts, feelings, needs, opinions, boundaries matter. Once you start accepting all of this, you find yourself in absolute harmony with your soul. This means that you get to experience life as it comes without fighting it. It is flowing with the current of life and moving in the direction that your intuition/soul are guiding you to be on for you to be happy and authentic. It is the movement away from the sheep and stepping into your power as the lion. It is tending your own garden and facilitating your growth by diving within yourself to heal and do the work. It is stepping away from pleasing others and society’s false norms.

When you conform to the will of others, you lose a piece of your soul along the way. You become a fragmented version of yourself. When you people please and bend over backwards for others without boundaries you are betraying yourself and neglecting what your soul is calling you to do and what you need. It is ok to be a flake, it is ok to say no, it is ok to stand in your power, stand up for yourself and speak your truth. You can walk away from a situation, end a relationship, agree to table a conversation until you are ready to discuss it. It is ok to tell people what you need, it is ok to be vulnerable, it is ok to cry, it is ok to be whatever you need to be in any given moment. When you stay true to your soul, to your needs, to your heart, you become aligned with your true purpose and the depths of your soul.

When you are aligned with your soul, the fear of the unknown lessens, and your overthinking diminishes minute by minute. It is the not knowing that causes fear, be of the hurt, betrayal, self-betrayal, lack of boundaries and punishment or consequences you’ve experienced in life that make you want to control the outcome. When you surrender to the unknown and just begin to flow through life, it begins to flow in a much different and natural way. “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.” – Woody Allen. This is true, you have a divine purpose and spirit wants to reward you with all your blessing, but first you must take the limitations off that your brain has imposed upon the divine reward.

Why is all this alignment, harmony and love so hard to achieve? Because everyone wants to fit in. When you can step away from the pre-conceived notions of society and stand in your own personal power you make the quantum leaps and heal the part of you that feels the need to hide in your own head. You release the overthinking and trauma responses and realize that bold is beautiful, that truth is necessary and that no matter what authenticity is what brings in success. As a society, there are some that are extremely successful or have incredible businesses or a huge following on social media. People want to be successful, so they emulate what they have already seen. Oscar Wilde said, “Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery that mediocrity can pay to greatness.” He is indeed correct that you should be flattered if someone is copying you, but it does not ensure their success. You achieved your place in life because of your hard work, ingenuity, and intuition. When you copy others, you are not being authentic, you are mimicking what you saw would work for someone else.

In order to succeed you must take the road less traveled, to find your own lane and let you intuition be the guide. It is possible to create the life you have always dreamed of, but first you must get there by standing on your own and doing what your soul is guiding you to do. Stop worrying about the Kardashians are doing or whoever your favorite celebrity is and just do you! Without fear of what the public thinks or says, without self-loathing and without fear of failure. When you can have absolute love for yourself, faith in your intuition, spirit and the unknown and trust in your soul, you can achieve anything. It is not easy, but once you get there you obtain the abundance you have always dreamed of. You can achieve anything in life, just believe, do the work, trust your intuition, be authentic and love yourself.

- Lady Phoenix

The Quantum Leap Versus Human Validation

The quantum world is influenced by human consciousness. We are moving into universal spirituality and universal consciousness. Universal spirituality respects all beliefs and truth others may hold within them.  It allows us to follow the path of our own mind on the path that our intuition lead us toward. Universal spirituality is simply an ideal of interconnectedness through universal consciousness or God consciousness.

This is the understanding that we all have spirit within our soul. The divine is back on Earth in each and every one of us. This is the connection to our higher selves and our own intuition. The more we listen to our intuition, the more we all awaken and connect to the divinity within us. This opens us up to find our true and authentic path. In doing this we are able to influence the world into a quantum shift.

This world shifts by the awakened ones raising our consciousness, our vibration and helping more to heal and awaken. The more souls who awaken, the bigger the shift. We are breaking the system and influencing a new world, a new Earth, a new way of existing. We feel this in our being and understanding what is real and what is fear-based programming inflicted upon us. This programming comes from societies need to control us and keep us in line. The great awakening is removing this programming. We are no longer sheep, but lions and earth angels. We are the light workers and shadow workers here to trigger those into internal reflection and quantum healing.

Understand when someone says quantum or implies quantum healing, it is the ability to realize the interconnectedness of all things and beings and the connection of our minds with the cosmic mind or God consciousness. Quantum leaps are a state of being and happen in the depth of our soul. They come to the surface because of the inner work being done and within divine timing.

Time is not a factor because it is a source of control and fear.  When we surrender to time, we realize that we create in every moment, in every capacity, in every way as spiritual beings. Time is a fallacy created by the need for a human mind to understand a limitation, but time itself is limitless, you comprehend this when you have true and absolute faith and step into authenticity.

Quantum leaping is all about our ability to change in consciousness to new dimensions of being. It is about jumping timelines as you heal. It is releasing distortions and limitations and unifying the mind to its full potential.  It is the ability to access anything at any moment and the ability to change the current reality. It is the purest form to tune into the truest depth of the multidimensional soul.

Every time a shift or awakening happens, there is the experience of a quantum leap. It is the shift from one state of mind to another, a change in perspective, a new insight or surrender of control, a level up in consciousness and being as a whole. It is beautiful and it is amazing, but it is still work and there can be fallout from the current timeline and those who are not on the same trajectory we are on. These quantum leaps allow us to be good to others as well as truthful and mature. Those at a lower vibration or in immature energy cannot step into these spiritual channels. They will be outgrown by those on a different, true, spiritual trajectory.  These people are in spiritual ego and can move into alignment the more work they do and the more they clear their distortions and can enter a space of peace, love, compassion and gratitude.

We do not pursue quantum leaps, when we do the work to better ourselves, they come when we least expect it. It can happen at anytime or any place. It is the shift in consciousness at the right moment for the soul. Once awareness shifts, alignment follows. In order to shift your timelines, shift your though process, do the work and dive into your shadow for yourself.

In diving into our shadow, we need to ask ourselves am I trusting my intuition or am I seeking external validation? I used to predominately read cards for the twin flame collective. It was so much about women and men seeking the external validation from the readings than it was about those individuals trusting their intuition and what their God consciousness was telling them. Society tells us that our own mind is inaccurate. We have experienced so much in life that tells us that we are wrong. We seek the validation because we do not feel worthy. When we do not feel worthy, we are stuck in a lower vibration and when we are stagnant there, it is hard to have absolute faith in ourselves. Once we dive within and do the work, on our own or with the help of a mentor, we shift that need for validation and move into a space of alignment. The more we align, the ore we experience quantum leaps.

Once we begin to trust that voice and to lean into our triggers, we begin to heal. We begin to realize the only thing holding us back are the limitations of our mind and that we are worthy. Our mind was programmed by society. This society told us that we had to conform, that things were black and white, heaven and hell, light or dark. Well, there is darkness in the light and light in the darkness. There are shades of gray and heaven spirit wouldn’t force us to conform to a way of living that didn’t feel wholly right within our souls.

The decisions in life, the small and important ones need to be made by trusting our intuition. It allows us to align with our true path and what feels right for our soul. How do we begin to trust our intuition? Start with the little things, have you ever decided to drive in one direction and then thought no I’ll go this other way instead? It is the act of second guessing that pulls us from our divine path. Trusting our intuition starts with trusting that initial thought. Whenever we second guess ourselves is when we are led astray. It’s called trusting the gut. When we trust our gut, we are trusting our intuition which is trusting our God consciousness.

When we trust our gut and realize that spirit is guiding our thoughts and helping to keep us on our divine path, then is reshapes your perspective which brings forth a quantum leap and reshapes our relationship with society. Let’s talk about spirit guiding our thoughts for a second. If you realize that we are all interconnected, then we understand that there is a collective consciousness. If we realize that our higher self/oversoul is guiding us to our true path, then these thoughts we hear are the clues and guides leading us to our true divinity and keeping us on the path that will be for our highest good and divine purpose. When we second guess or over analyze/ruminate in our thoughts we are pulling ourselves away from Spirit’s guidance and turning our back on spirit and our divine path.

When we trust our gut, dive into the things that trigger us and surrender to timing, we start to shift in a quantum way. The triggers are the guides, but the meditation is the medicine. What does that mean? It means that every single person we meet is a reflection of us. Every wonderful, beautiful, amazing thing that happens from anyone we meet that feels like a blessing is our reflection of us in them. Transversely, every interaction, everything that feels uncomfortable, everything that doesn’t go our way allows us to look inside and shift our perspective. To shift our relationship with ourselves and our relationship with society. How do we make that shift? We meditate, do hypnotherapy, receive reiki, journal, dance, get outside, read books, listen to music, ask mentors and coaches for help or do whatever our soul is calling us to do. That is the medicine. For me, it is a combination of all those modalities.

Start digging deep to unearth the beauty of the collective mind and let the quantum shifts transpire. It is a difficult process, but so worth it throughout and in the end. It is all working out in our favor. It is happening for us not to us and the more we trust our intuition and trust our gut, the more we shift. It is a beautiful world that we get to experience each day we wake up. Through the love you show others your vibration will rise and the more we rise, the planet rises. Let’s all awaken this beautiful word together. I appreciate you; I see you and I love you.

– Lady Phoenix

The Antiquated Feeling & The Unquantifiable Vibration

What does it mean to say I love you? What does it mean to pour your heart out? How can you conceptualize the depths of the feelings of love and be able to convey that to another person or to yourself? Sometimes words aren’t enough. The language we create is limited, just as we limit our beliefs, put rules on them and box ourselves in. It is time for us to return to feelings and vibrations. Spirit communicates with us in feelings, with emotions, with our desires, without words. Language is important yes, but feelings so much more than that. It is through our feelings that we sense the vibration of what is happening around us, who to communicate with and let into our inner circle/sanctum and who to steer clear from.

We feel as though we need to be able to explain and understand everything when in all reality it is simply a matter of feeling everything. Feeling the good, the bad and the uncomfortable. We need to understand our feelings and emotions before we can move forward in growth. We bury our feeling and emotions under the surface. We sweep them under the rug and then when we have left them unattended for too long they rear their ugly head and we are left reeling from the consequences of our actions. It is too much to handle to push everything down and to not face what is happening inside of you.

Our emotions are like the sea. Sometimes it is tumultuous, sometimes its calm. Sometimes there is a storm brewing and others it is a beautiful, blissful, sunny day. The tide can be low or high and on a rare occasion there can be a tidal wave. When we feel that tsunami building, it can cause mass destruction. It can tear our inner and outer world to pieces, but our emotions, like a wave of mass destruction will always recede back into the recesses from whence they came. It may leave behind a trail of ruins, but it only breaks down the things in our life that were not built on a solid foundation. Anything that we built on that rock solid foundation will withstand the power and pressure of whatever we are going through. Anything that was made with haste or on sand will crumble under the weight of the experience. This gives us something beautiful though. It gives us the ability to uproot the cause of the destruction, it allows us to build a solid foundation from experience. It gives us the wherewithal to understand that if we can outride that experience with an unstable foundation, then we can absolutely endure anything, because we know better and we know ourselves deeper.  

In experiencing life through the good and difficult, the further we open yourself up to our feelings and emotions the less we are affected by the outside world. We begin to feel the synergy that exists within our own vibration. Which puts us in tune with the vibration of Gaia and the universe. Feelings can’t always be equated into words, but they exist, nonetheless. Words have limitations, vibrations are unquantifiable.

As human beings, we feel the need to quantify, limit, explain or enumerate everything around us. By placing limitations or labels on everything around us, it means we label ourselves and limit the possibilities and experiences in our lives. That literally stops us in our tracks and prevents us from reaching our full potential in any aspect of life. You are more than a child, parent, sibling, male, female, your profession or anything you have experiences. You are limitless. You are a multidimensional being and are capable of anything you set your mind to or want to manifest.

Humans have a hard time understanding the possibility of being limitless due to the quantifiable society in which we were born into. But through quantum healing, meditation and opening the brain to the potential that we can live in faith versus understanding, then it changes our language from that of words to one of feelings, emotions, vibrations and intuition, which brings forth the ultimate understanding and connection to all things through love.

Do we really need to know everything, or can we enter this space of surrender to the universe, to sprit and listen to the vibration of our intuition, to the vibration of the planet and everyone around us? It is a possibility, and we can all get there, it will take time, but for now, let us turn within and listen to our own heart. Listen to our breath and trust what you feel. Allow our emotions to run deep within us and let ourselves ride the waves of whatever is brewing inside. That is where the knowledge and healing happen. That is where we become our authentic selves, that is where we become the quantum, unquantifiable, multidimensional being that we were destined to be. That is where er become interconnected and we become one. We are already one, that is where we gain access to it and fully surrender to it. It is possible to actualize our potential, release the labels and become one with our oversoul.

-Lady Phoenix

Self Realization and your Oversoul

You hold the golden keys to heaven on earth. You have the ability to create your own human experience to be whatever your soul needs it to be. You are good, you are innocent, you are in tune with your destiny. You can be holy and flesh at the same time. You are truly divine, but what stops you from being in this creation and source energy?

Your fear, lack and distortions are what is holding you back. Your inner child was frowned upon and made to believe you weren’t worthy. When that happened to you, you shifted, changed and became something that didn’t fit the purity of your soul and your purpose. You created almost an alternate reality where you existed as one being for the world to see with a private world that was really you. You kept this private world hidden inside of you where it was safe. It is a space where you won’t be ridiculed, reprimanded or forsaken, just for being your innate self.

When you created this world, you shut yourself off from your oversoul. You only existed as a fragment of yourself. You are now working on calling back those soul fragments to step into your authentic power and realize that you are already whole. To become one with your higher self, with your inner child, with your oversoul.

Your higher self is the voice of your oversoul. Your higher self is the holy spirit, translator and messenger of spirit. All you must do is ask your higher self to translate your destiny to your 3D based self. What is your oversoul? It is the universal spirit that lives within all of us. It is the god consciousness. It is the unity of all beings. It is the reality that you are a perfect spiritual being manifesting your reality. It is the I am presence, your vital life force, it is your true passionate connection to all things. It is the one true version of you without any distortions or limitations. The oversoul is the faith in what is real and what is unseen. It is you and you are it. It is the highest form of yourself that made the choices for what you needed to experience in this lifetime and what you bring to the world and your own human experience. Your destiny awaits you, and your higher self and oversoul already know what that destiny is. Your inner child once knew and the more you connect to them, the closer you get to realizing your true potential.

What speaks directly to your heart? That is what leads you to your evolution to realize who you are, what your higher self and holy spirit voice truly are. That voice is always truthful and loving, your mind and ego-based self are what bring you into confusion and lack through your distortions that you have experienced in this incarnation as well as previous ones. Whatever you feel in your heart is what you need to trust, you then balance with your intuition and logic to become one and in harmony with your inner divine feminine and masculine.

Invite your inner child to journey with you and if they feel in alignment then proceed. If they are scared or do not like your energy, rethink your present motives, actions and process. Evolution of the mind and spirit are not easy tasks but becoming vulnerable and learning to flow and trust in your intuition, higher self, oversoul/God consciousness, then everything begins to work out in your favor. You begin to step into your power and stop doubting what you are doing and why. You just know that it is what you are meant to do. Ask spirit why and receive the answers through your own thoughts and signs from the universe.

Most of you doubt because you have been hurt before. You have been wounded to the core and do not trust that your intuition is accurate. You have ended up experiencing so many things in life that did not work out in your favor.  Just remember that you needed to experience all of that to make you who you are. To clear your distortions and to bring you to the precipice of your awakening. You can always trust your intuition; it is your ego that wants things to happen in a certain time or way. Your higher self knows exactly what you need and that you will be provided for always.

Your higher self is a great counselor, it can be there to comfort you. It knows what you need and speaks through your soul. It feeds you and fuels you. It gives you signs and guides you to follow your heart and make healthy and wonderful choices for yourself. It connects you mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. It reassures you and makes you feel in alignment by your emotions and the passion you feel through them. Anything you need from a counselor or therapist; you can receive from your higher self. Your ego self turns away from the signs and keeps you stuck in old patterns, but your higher self is the most loving and pure form of you. It knows what you need at any moment, you just must trust and lean into the warmth of its love and show gratitude for you are already there, whole and righteous. You deserve to understand this life and to make of it all these amazing things.

Why hold yourself back from receiving the help you need that already exists within you? You have peace and your destiny within you. You have the keys to your kingdom within you. You have the truth of abundance within you. You have true worthiness within you. You just have to open your heart to the possibility and to receive your divine birthright.

You create your reality by the power of your word. How are your speaking to yourself? How are you speaking to others? Are you constantly saying you are almost there or that you are waiting for this or that to happen or change? If yes, then you will be in a perpetual state of waiting or limbo. You are moving in the right direction in your life, it is your ego that is in a hurry. Just stop and smell the roses because your higher self, you inner child, your oversoul know that everything is right on time and working out exactly as it is meant to.

This is your spiritual revolution! Meditation is your key to enlightenment and your emotions can sooth your soul. Your spiritual education is the key to waking up. Ask your soul questions, read books and truth the path that you are on. This is your time to not worry about being stoned to death, burned at the stake or drowned for having a different or strong opinion. This is your lifetime to be a strong and powerful soul who veers away from the masses and teaches others how to move against the grain in their own authenticity. This is your lifetime to make it so much more than all the others before you. This is your lifetime to embody the Christ spirit and be the womb of healing for all others. You get to be the divine masculine and the divine feminine and truly awaken others to their potential. You are a goddess and a god. You are an enlightened being and the more you actualize your power the closer you get to becoming one with your divinity.

This is the reconciliation of your soul, and you are moving into a new life, you are creating a new world and you are embodying the best version of yourself. Allow yourself to continue to do the work and clear your distortions to become one with all that is. You are gifted and you are the only one who can experience all you have in this lifetime. The more you realize your personal struggles and surrender to the divine, the more you actualize your truest self and step into your god consciousness.

You are supported in your spiritual training, and you know your own mind. Trust in your experiences and allow your soul tribe to assist you and to come to be more than just allies and friends. They are your soul tribe, and they can be your activists, for you are an activist as well. You embody the activist through your truth, sensuality and breath. This awakens your kundalini and helps to usher in and cultivate new psychic gifts. You are growing and gaining more downloads and learning to use your voice to prepare you for your mission. This is a mission that only you can achieve.

You have the secrets of the universe within you. The more that you dive into your subconscious, the more you are able to walk your divine path. You need to surrender daily to your intuition, to spirit and to the constructs that you and society have placed upon you. Do not be ashamed of your past, your previous experiences or thoughts you have ever had. You are mastering the future through your past and you need to allow your light to be bright. The more you focus on doubt, the more you dim your own light. You need to open your heart and your chakras to release what no longer serves you to allow you to step into compassion and love.

You are compassion and you are love. You are the universe and so much more. Stop doubting and start believing. You have the whole world in your hand, what will you do with it?

When you are ready uses these questions for journal prompts. Why do you doubt your intuition? Why do you hold onto what keeps you stuck? What is it that no longer serves you?

-Lady Phoenix

The Transformation of the Distorted to the Divine

There is no right way to do anything. You flow with what you’re feeling and what you need at any moment. Life throws a lot at you, so all you can truly do is to be in your own space at your own time and to trust yourself. Everything will work out as it is meant to, for you to advance into a space of alignment and enlightenment. To be a better being for yourself and for the collective. You are sovereign and you are truly beautiful inside and out. You have masculine and feminine energies within you at any given moment and every single moment. How you balance those energies depends on what you are facing in the specific situation you are in. When looking at these energies, they are not gender specific, because every single person is a container for both. Each person on earth is comprised of this yin/yang energy and will spend time within their life working to balance these energies and understand them. To balance these energies, you must first acknowledge what they are and how they feel.

Masculine energy is universal fatherhood energy. The father protects his family. He provides for his children and makes sure that they are safe and well cared for. They may not be the ones carrying their children inside of them, but the make sure nothing happens to those in their circle, their family or soul family. They are the emperor. Ruling their kingdom and using logic to ensure the prosperity and longevity of their line and their hard work. They are resourceful and know how to work with others to make things happen. The DM takes charge, knows how to lead and is assertive. They speak up for right and wrong and are the protector and defender. Masculine energy is confident, unwavering and keeps promises while speaking truth. The divine masculine is the warrior. They are that yang energy, firm with boundaries, logical and can survive in any situation. They are the sun; they are disciplined and the ultimate hero. They are resilient, guide those around them and take care of their tribe. They are the container for the ones they love. They are mature, willful and the head over the heart.

I always say that the inner divine masculine is the head while the inner divine feminine is the heart. If the head and heart are at war with each other, it is impossible to move in fluidity. They must work together to come into inner union to bring harmony to your life. Once the harmony is there you are in alignment and welcoming all blessings into your life.

The divine feminine is universal motherhood energy. Think about a woman who carries an unborn child inside of her. She gives that child a safe space to grow and transform. She feeds the child, and she takes care of herself while taking care of the child. The better care she takes of herself, the better off and healthier that child will be. She brings that child into the world and teaches, nurtures and loves that child with her whole heart. That is the divine feminine energy. The DF is soft, nurturing, and the ultimate mother. They are the embodiment of love. They are the moon, Gaia, and sustain life. They embody sensuality, compassion, abundance, intuition, receptivity and a soft place to land. The divine feminine is gentle, heart centered, communicative and works with you, not against you. They follow the lead of the masculine and embody creativity. The feminine is the cosmic womb and brings love and life into this world. They are the ones who restore balance when they are in touch with their emotions. They have that intuitive sense, that “women’s intuition” that keeps them in tune with everything around them. The compassion they exude is embodied within them as they do not fight; they flow and trust and have faith. They are the ones guiding you home through the night. The light in the darkness, the shelter from the storm.

To balance these, you must understand the difference between divine masculine, divine feminine, distorted masculine and distorted feminine energy.

The immature or distorted masculine will blame others. They panic in situations where they feel uncomfortable. They will not commit to their responsibilities or women in their life. They seek external validation and have a hard time making decisions. They can be selfish, self-centered and greedy and seek or demand instant gratification or pleasure. They punish those around them and act in ego. They do not keep their word and do not fight for their beliefs. They tend to have narcissistic tendencies ad often use gaslighting as a tool to defend their own viewpoint. They operate from their own wounds instead of using logic and are in it for themselves, not their people. They only care about money and abundance and do not understand the bigger picture. They seek many sexual partners, can be violent, domineering, are not in touch with their emotions and do not take care of themselves. They are vain and are not an ally to women. They take advantage and look down upon women. They want to be the eternal bachelor or have everyone bend to their will. They can move beyond these distortions the more they take accountability for their actions and allow the healing of their subconscious to truly open them up to a greater understanding of who they are. Once they do, they step into that beautiful energy of the divine masculine.

The immature or distorted feminine defines her self-worth by those around her. They seek external validation and is an attention seeker. They want to be saved and cannot admit when they are wrong. They live in chaos and have no structure to their life. They are completely in ego and make it all about their wants and needs. They cannot see outside of themselves. They are unapologetic and cannot be vulnerable or open up to those around them. They keep everyone at arm’s length. The distorted feminine is the ultimate nag and cannot communicate effectively. They are emotionally unstable and reactive rather than being responsive to situations. They are in a constant state of resentment and blame and throw tantrums when they don’t get their own way. They gossip and talk poorly about others instead of seeing the good in everyone. They operate out of fear, resentment and pain rather than love. They are traumatized at some point in their life and continue to hold onto this because it is all they have ever known. When they make the choice to move out of this energy, they begin to clear their distortions and move into a healthy space and can truly embody the divine feminine.

It is ok if you still have some of the distortions within you. If you are here and you are reading this, then it means you are working on yourself to be better for yourself and those around you to move into alignment and to become the best version of yourself. Don’t stop working on yourself and continue to do the inner work. The more inner work you do, the more you begin to truly understand your soul purpose. The truth of who you are and what you need. Connect to your head and your heart and find you soul center. The part of you that only you know and begin to share that with the world. Stop doubting yourself. You are truly magnificent. You are sovereign! There is no reason for you to doubt yourself or your purpose. The more you stand in your power and trust what you think and what you feel inside with that deep inner knowing, the closer you get to your true destiny. There is no more up and down, just a steady, consistent heartbeat of truth and source. The heartbeat of your soul. The heartbeat of Gaia. The heartbeat of the sun and moon. The heartbeat of the cosmos. The heartbeat of source.

Source is within you, God consciousness is within you, divine masculine and divine feminine energies are within you. You have the whole world within you. Anything and everything are within your grasp. You are the one holding yourself back with your self-limiting beliefs. It is not a matter of waiting; it is a matter of divine timing. If you claim to be waiting on something you are manifesting a perpetual state of waiting. If you manifest divine timing and trust your lessons, then it is only a matter of focusing on the present to breakthrough and achieve your goals. You are worthy and you are righteous. You deserve everything you have ever wanted. Get clear and specific about your wants, needs, and goals and let the universe deliver them to you. This life is divinely orchestrated to bring you opportunities into your realm for the purpose of your destiny to guide you through the lessons of your soul. The more you focus on the lessons, growth and your personal power, while staying present the more you balance, align and in secure your connection with God consciousness. You’ve got this and I’ve got you

- Lady Phoenix

Return to Innocence

Let’s talk about suffering, guilt and shame and the human relationship with them. The more one suffers, the further away from true divinity one is. The further away from source consciousness, the further away from balance within. Society has certain constructs that have been in place for thousands of years that keep individuals from their divine route and do not allow anyone the ability to find their own true nature, voice and pathway in this world. What is the definition of suffering? It is the state of undergoing pain, distress or hardship. Looking at children or your own inner child, is it in their nature to experience any of these things? No, it is not. It is a byproduct of the distortions created by the experiences of those around you who were not awakened and forced you to change who you were to suit the masses. To become socially acceptable, to be what society or the adults who took part in raising you (parents, teachers, family members) told you was normal.

What is normal anyway? It is conforming to a standard set by a few. Then obeyed by the masses. It removes all authenticity and forces you to become something you are not. When you were a child, you were reprimanded for not behaving the way others wanted you to behave. When that happened, it brought forth suffering, guilt and/or shame. All these feelings and distortions are and were interconnected. They stayed with you into adulthood and changed your reality of who you are and should be. When you were made to be or behave as something you were not it took part of your soul and buried it in lack mentality. It forced you to believe that something was wrong with you. It enabled you to believe that you were not enough, or you were too much. It diminished your capacity to connect to source and be all that you were destined to be. It took your self esteem away and made you conform to what others wanted you to be rather than who you were at your core. It changed your understanding of self.

Children are pure and they are magical. They see everything in this world that is right and beautiful, and they have no filter. They are the magical unicorns of society. But society in the past and still a bit today makes them feel as though they should be seen and not heard. They are told “the grown-ups are talking, or because I said so, or not right now.” They are not given explanations and then they do not understand why something is happening. It puts them in a state of confusions or a state where their own needs are not met. When a child’s needs are not met, they learn how to cope without their needs and end up living adult distortions. Most adults today don’t know how to ensure their own needs are met or how to emotionally cope.

Society and the way children are brought up in the world around them alters their perception, reality and DNA. It alters the way they view the world and what they truly see. It diminishes their gifts and forces them to conform. It takes away their individuality and authenticity and forces them to become sheep. It plugs them into the matrix and then they will spend a lifetime trying to navigate and escape it.

What is the definition of shame? This is the feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior. What is the definition of guilt? Guilt is the feeling of regret due to acknowledging some type of wrongdoing in this life. What is it you have done that is truly foolish or wrong? Nothing! Nothing in life you have done is truly wrong. Everything you did or experienced is what you were meant to go through to find yourself, to learn your lessons and to wake TF up! Have you done things you regret or may be disappointed in yourself for doing? ABSOLUTELY! But guess what…it’s ok. You did what you were programmed to do and now you must forgive yourself. When you hold onto regret, guilt, shame or suffering, it creates stagnation in your life. What you did or was done to you may not be ok, but you can learn from it, and you can grow from the experience to do better in the future.

By forgiving others and yourself, you release that stagnant energy, that energy that keeps hold of you and locks or freezes you in that moment in time. You can allow yourself to be in a truly humble and loving state. You can move forward in a space of gratitude and be open to learning, conceiving new ideas and allowing yourself to understand that you do not know everything. When you can find humility, it brings, grace, when you find grace, you can nurture yourself and set boundaries while moving forward with intent. Once that is accomplished, guess what? You have now balanced your masculine and feminine energies and are emanating in a harmonic vibration that allows for fruitful celebrations because you are now available to receiving your blessings.

When you can release victimhood, you become a powerful active participant who is an active cocreator in your life. You must make conscious shifts in your awakening to ground and take each step, every day to ensure that you do not take on too much. This is a long process of deprogramming and returning to the innocence of your inner child. That beautiful, angelic, soul that was truly divine and had no inhibitions and was the most authentic version of yourself.

When you begin to deprogram it is a lot like AA (alcoholics anonymous), any sobriety or addiction program. It’s all in steps and stages and so is your awakening. You will encounter behavior that you wish to deprogram and shift to behave in a higher vibrational energy. You want desperately to move into a new state of being, but don’t know how to get there. It starts with you being engrossed in your previous behavior. You may always react in a certain way in a given situation. At first you don’t notice that, which you are doing, then you have some type of awakening or awareness to that behavior and decide you want to change it. The first step is acknowledging that you behave in that way, whatever behavior that nay be. Then you realize after the fact that you did it again after being triggered or encountering the loss of control. You feel discouraged initially because you want to make a difference in your own behavior. When the trigger arises in the next moment of turmoil, you realize while you are in that undesirable behavior that you want to change it but can’t seem to stop yourself. Next, you begin to react as you always do, but have the wherewithal to stop mid act and shift the behavior. PROGRESS! Be proud of yourself in this moment and every moment prior because you are doing it! The next time it happens you acknowledge how you would behave in the past and consciously make the effort to react in a different manner. This is difficult, but IT IS HAPPENING!!! Then after some practice in the future when the trigger or situation arises, you realize after the fact that you would have behaved completely differently manner in the past. Then suddenly it is a non-issue because you have reprogrammed yourself to behave in a way that suits your soul and authenticity. You have broken the pathways that have kept you stagnant or repeating karmic cycles/behavior. It is a process, and it is not easy, but it is worth it.

You can get out of any behavior or victimization in your life. It takes work, conscious and subconscious reprogramming and support. However, the more you stay present and connect to your senses and ground, the easier it is for you to find your way back to innocence and back to that beautiful inner child. When you find your inner child and reconnect to their spirit and your higher self you truly become the holy trinity and have complete access to God consciousness. The more you connect to God consciousness, the more abundant you are in all areas and the more you have access to all grids here on Earth. You have access to all energies, things, people, places and the ability to find true peace, love, acceptance, authenticity and love. So, look at your life and see where do you feel guilt, shame, and suffering and how do these feeling present patterns in your life? Where do they stem from and how do you want to shift your consciousness? This will not be easy, but the more you work within this frame to shift and reprogram to love and authenticity, the more you come home to your soul.

- Lady Phoenix

New Earth

The thought of being here in the dark, alone is almost unbearable. We begin to look inward, but we become so tired and need to take care of ourselves. The more we let go the more we step into our power. We are absorbing so much within the universe that sometimes we forget who is the driver and who is the passenger. We need to learn how to properly ground and connect to Gaia. Connect to her presence and essence. Connect to her songs and her breath. She is alive and here to support and love us. We so often forget that she is the Divine Feminine and that it is ok to fully tap into her, let her nurture us and give us the love we need. The more we connect to her the less we fear and feel alone. We can let her lead and she will always lead us to our intuition.

When we trust our intuition, we surrender control. When we relinquish control, we remember who we are and who we are supposed to be. It is through that act of letting go, that we find ourselves again. We were never lost, we simply buried ourselves under all of our distortions. When we fully forfeit our distortions, we move into abundance and remember our birthright.

Our birthright is divine abundance and the ability to connect with ourselves, with all of humanity and with Gaia through love, forgiveness and gratitude. It is a truly beautiful space to be in. But, in order to fully get there, it takes self-realization and doing the work within. Tapping into one’s subconscious is a scary process, but incredibly fulfilling. The revelations it brings fully connect you to your God consciousness. The more that we tap in and the further we dive into the shadows and recesses of our soul, the lighter it becomes, and we begin to pave the way for others to follow.

We have chosen to be here. We have chosen to go through this first in order to help others with their ascension and then allow them to see they are not alone. We are divinely guided and protected. We have the ability to stand in our power. Being divinely protected in this lifetime is vitally important. We are the black sheep of our families and of society. We are the ones who have volunteered and been selected to break generational trauma, ancestral bonds and past life cycles. We are here to uplift and shift humanities perspective and the current paradigm. This is not an easy task but through the effort and inner work you are doing, it allows the necessary and fruitful progress.

You are connected to source, to the most high, to the no-thing and to all. In being the chosen one it does not mean that you will not suffer and that nothing can happen to you. It simply means that those who chose to do you harm will have karmic lessons to understand. It means that the more you trust your intuition and come from a space of love that people will chose not to do you harm. It means that the more you connect to love and God consciousness, the more you are able to free yourself from the confines and boxes of the limitation that your Earthly vessel and the current beliefs of this society’s paradigm have inflicted upon all of us.

You are the chosen one. You are the one who has decided to be in the limelight of this awakening for all mankind, to jumpstart the transcendence of all things into the cosmic womb, into the ethers, into the new garden of Eden. To embrace freedom, authenticity, connecting to what looks, feels and IS right to you and your soul.

We are the children of Lumeria coming home and allowing our vessels to purify the land. To purify the mind, to purify the planet. We are the awakened ones, who are lighting the way for everyone else to follow. Our children’s, children’s, children will reap the benefits of what we sew. We are the ancestor that will be the one to pave the way for future generations. Our story will be told in the heavens. We are the ones bringing God home.

The revelation is, God will not return to Earth because God is already here. God is within all of us. God is multi-dimensional and so are we. We are the chosen ones. The more we step into our power the more we bring Gaia into her ascension and truly become one with all that is. We are bringing the old ways back to the forefront of the mind and no longer forsaking anything for the good of anyone or anything else.

We are love, we always have been and always will be. We were never lost, and the love was never lost, just buried beneath our distortions and now we are unearthing it, bringing it to the surface to become a pillar of humanity. We are creating an existence that all are deserving of and that all can benefit from. Now is the time. Now is our time. Now is your time. Welcome to New Earth.

- Lady Phoenix